I said: ------------------------------------------------ The question is; do you want to aggressively pursue repairing the relationship, even if that means a one-sided approach? ------------------------------------------------
You didn't answer me. How about some direct communication with me?
All the best, -NOPkins-
Sorry NOP, thought I sorta did. I have been doing the one sided approach and it has gotten me nowhere. I need my needs met too. I don't want our kids to grow up and think that it's alright to behave this way. We are not setting a good example for them.
Hairdog, I would get someone else to do the deck if we could afford it. H always has time off at Christmas as most suppliers close down (he is a carpenter), so we organised materials beforehand so he could get it done and go back to work after New Years. Trouble is, he still hasn't gone back to work and I don't make enough money to cover mortgage repayments so we have just about used up all our savings. Of course if I hadn't got sucked into believing his promise of 'it will be done in a few weeks', things would be different.
Funny about the ADD thing Hairdog, my mum actually said something about that the other day. I really don't think that is his problem though, as he can totally focus on fishing all the time!
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
From your husband's point of view, why is he not hearing you and getting the work done? I am not talking about ADD.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
Hello to you... over the pond! Love the accent, even in written form.
Dear, sweet, woman, you remind me SOOOOO much of my best friend. She has the same issues with her hubby, and, for some part, I also had issues with my xH on these kind of things.
You know what will get your hubby moving, pronto, on that deck of yours? A-guarantee, it will NOT FAIL. Promise.
Ya gotta change the 'tude, woman. You can have whatever you want from your Hubby. I can tell you how, if you will LISTEN to me.
From your husband's point of view, why is he not hearing you and getting the work done? I am not talking about ADD.
All the best, -NOPkins-
He says, he just forgets that it's there and that I don't get on his case enough. Other than that, I have no idea NOP. Getting the work done or going to work making money would make our lives more comfortable that's for sure! Dunno why he's so happy just cruising along the way he does when everyone else is going crazy.
Corri, doooo tell. Does it involve getting one of those pieces of wood I've got sitting out there and his head? j/k
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
