Valentines 2007...MUCH better than last year!

[grasshopper]

I am really starting this just so I maintain my presnse here. I am NOT gone for good, but rather just taking time to branch out and get some things done in my life that I have put off the entire time of the trauma despite my GAL efforts.

I am still lurking and will jump in if needed.

I hope you all had the best V-day possible. I know it can be a rough time. Trust me, last year's was possibly the worst day of this whole ordeal beyond the initial bomb day.

This year was a whole different story. I decided to totally surprise my W and get her original diamond from her engagment ring re-set into a pendant. She wanted to do this back when we replaced her ring but for some reason (money) we didn't do it. I found the ring in her jewlery box and got a custom mounting made for it.

I was REALLY nervous that she would either not like it, or hate that I spent the money but neither was the case. She actually cried she was so happy. She told me later in the middle of (still wearing the necklace and nothing else) that it was things like that, me thinking of the right thing to get her, that really let her know how much I love her...and then she gave me the rare ILY and said she didn't say it nearly enough (hey, 2 times a year, but who's counting, lol).

Needless to say, it was a REALLY good day/night so I am here to tell you, it CAN get better, it really can.

I wish ALL of you the same luck I think I have had.

GH

[~Sol]

GH,

I was hoping if you could check out my thread and point out some things that I could do better in my sitch. My W has warmed up to me, and I have been watching my anger and resentment now that she is getting back into her old self. She tells me ILY when she leaves for work, and when I leave, and she hugs me more than before. But I am struggling with her cold spell that she's in regarding intimacy in the bedroom. A month ago, it was good. Now, it seems she's convinced that I still am not interested in ML, even though I initiated all contact until now. We had a talk about me pressuring her, so I backed off. Now I feel rejected. I'm trying hard to understand her but I need to be more intimate with this woman.

I've heard that you've been where I have? Any input is greatly appreciated. Thanks!!!

[cat03]

glad you had a great Vday, mine was good too, I've never gotten so little for Vday before (H used to go all out but now I take care of $$ and he barely has any for misc. spending) but was happier to get my little gift w/the imprinted words "I love you" in it.

I'm also lurking and jumpin gin here and there, hope our friends here who are staring out know that it takes a while, but it is worthed and eventually things get better.