It's been a difficult road up to this point. However, I finally found the words that have eluded me during this time of grief. I said to her, "The person you are divorcing is no longer here. The person standing in front of you, the one who you are choosing to divorce, is a person who is now aware. Aware of what it takes, now, to be a partner. Aware of my responsibilities to my love."
Whether it will make a difference, I cannot say. But I slept better last night than I had in a while. Because I finally found what needed to be said.
When you now know that 2+2 equals 4, it can never equal 3 again.
Me 37; W 35; 2 dogs M 8 years; before that, dated 9 years Bomb #1: 10/13/2006 (day after my birthday) Bomb #2: 1/15/2007 I am finding strength I never thought I had