I'm glad to hear that. There's a lot of good books that will help you understand things. The one I recommended above has very good information on working through an affair and understanding them (It definitely helped me to understand how easily and even innocently they can start up -- even in "good" marriages!). Unfortunately I think there are a lot of societial images and attitudes that make it easier for people to fall into infidelity.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I'm glad to hear that. There's a lot of good books that will help you understand things. The one I recommended above has very good information on working through an affair and understanding them (It definitely helped me to understand how easily and even innocently they can start up -- even in "good" marriages!). Unfortunately I think there are a lot of societial images and attitudes that make it easier for people to fall into infidelity.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I spend most of the time, in forgiveness. I understand her actions and forgive her for them. Out of no where, I just get mad about it. Last night I told her I was furious at her. She helped me get through it. She apologized again, told me she was in love with me, and said she understood why I was angry. We talked for a while and the anger past. Today, I have been good for most of the day, but from time to time, I feel like hurting the OM some way. (Not physically) Something like trying to get him fired, or finding a way to tell his wife, without calling her. (I said I would not call her) Then, this feeling passes too and I'm back to forgiving again. This is an emotional roller coaster.
