haha - I got that already - "I'm sad too," said as he told me he'd started seeing someone else one week after telling me he wanted a divorce. Funnily enough it didn't make me feel any better! (Although my friend and I have a good laugh about it now)
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself. Galileo Galilei
well as long as we're dreaming big: how about - "that fire in the back yard? I'm burning all the things she ever bought me, especially that completely inappropriate f(*^ing picture I had hanging in my bathroom where I thought you never saw it, along with the copy of her diary that I had "hidden" in the bookcase and that piece of jewelry I accused you of taking and finally found on the floor. It was the least I could do."
yeah, the VERY least... Whatsis, my spouse has a date tonight and a planned sleepover...you could say I'm bitter. (or you could say I have incredible restraint for not having gone over there and taken a baseball bat to the both of them...perspective is everything)
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
Stubborn, Sorry to hear about tonight! It never ceases to amaze me how they can do such hurtful things and somehow legitimize the actions in their minds. In fact, they often resent us for having feelings about it at all! I know my W has legitimized her A by being a martyr! She doesn't allow family time to be affected by her A, she misses time with OP for the family. She stays and suffers for the family! I'm serious. So, her pain more than offsets my feelings. They each do it in their own way, just turn things around! I still remember your S's line "some people just have no morals!" referring elseshere, of course! But, again, we must recognize that the A did not just happen because they were so damn happy with us, we played and still play a part in the hurt that exists in our R's. I'd invite you for a sleepover tonight but it's family time, you know!!!LOL
I would love to hear...."I really do love you with all of my heart. I have been so stupid. She means nothing and I will never speak with her again. Thank you for standing behind me and loving me even though I have been a complete and selfish jerk!"
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
"OP had a horrific accident, she drowned in all that empathy that was oozing from her pores,
Love that!
Originally Posted By: not_giving_up
I would love to hear...."I really do love you with all of my heart. I have been so stupid. She means nothing and I will never speak with her again. Thank you for standing behind me and loving me even though I have been a complete and selfish jerk!"
A girl can dream, can't she? Might I add: "I'm so sorry for belittling and disrespecting your pain by insisting it wasn't actually an affair, that I was just moving on because I no longer believed us to be married, even though I'd only actually moved out a couple of months beforehand. I realise now how insane it was for me to think that way. Even though it's not the easy option, I'm willing to do anything it takes to rebuild our marriage, because you're the woman I love and I still want you to be the mother of my children one day. I'm worth it. You're worth it. We're worth it. No matter how much hard work it takes."
Or on a lighter note: "Oh for a TARDIS so we can go back about 6 months, and I promise I won't bugger it up next time."
Me:30 H:30 Together:10yr H left:Oct3'06,couple weeks before 5th wed anniv. No Kids OW bomb:Jan19'07 My thread: He filed.
amen brother. Same thing here, family time does not suffer and MOST sleepovers are planned for a night D7 has a regular date with grandma. POS! And the martyr thing...this week I heard "I am in love and want to spend more time with X...I know you are having a hard time but I think much of the problem is your non-acceptance of how I feel..."
gee it must be heartbreaking to want to sleep around and not have time to do it without others sitting around being hurt by your actions! Damn I can be so inconsiderate. I'm so sorry that I have the nerve to cry as you leave.
GRRRRRR!!!!!! I want to hear: "the aliens have returned my brain, wiping clean all traces of OW and replacing her with a HUGE desire to work on myself and therefore US and the future! They installed a device allowing you to program your every desire into my heart and I will follow your instructions."
Can we have cocoa at the sleepover?
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
We can all dream can't we???? One of these days I WILL hear those words. I have faith that it will happen.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Whatsis, buddy, I think I have another one to add to the top 10 list...weirdass things my freaky spouse has done:
goes on her "date/sleepover" last night, calls home around 7pm to tell me to take daughter outside to "look at the moon"...lovely harvest moon, but do you call home from a date and tell your partner to do that? WTF???????
Where is your world? How is your planet? Please ask the Queen of the Aliens if you can come home now...
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
