Its crazy alright and it sucks. I never thought this would be where I am in life in my mid 30's. Everybody wants us back together. I pray to GOD to let me know if I am doing the right thing and I always get something that tells me YES very strongly.
Life is a GAME, there is no reset button, you have to play the cards that you were dealt and WIN.
I am in a very awkward spot in my sitch and the confusion continues to build.
I am to the point where I am going to have to file to save my kids. I do not want to do this but I really have alternative at this point. She is getting ready to get her own place which means that Johnny the Sex Offender will be there most of the time and I do not want my kids around him.
I just hope this is Gods way not just mine.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I think you are dong the best thing a dad can do to protect those little ones. They need a rock for a parent and you are it! They need to look up to you, and you will be there to nurture them into adulthood. I see nothing wrong and everything right in wanting to get your kids. I really hope for the best!!!!!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Trust me OSU - God does not and will not reward adultery. It is YOUR choice to divorce if it is necessary. God supports you on this and will give you strength to do the right thing. If that means filing is the right thing for your kids, then do it. They cannot be there with him. You are right. Does your W understand that she is going to lose everything??
I do not think she realizes what she is GOING to loose.
I think she will get the picture when I have an atty send her a letter as well as hopfully some sort of restraining order for my new best friend...I told her if we get D'ed that My kids will not be around him and she tried to tell me she was going to do it. I guess we will have to wait and see.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
ewwwwwww Osu - that guy sure is a rough looking sod isn't he?
Gross - how could she stand being with him (give me the willies just thinking about it)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Don't ask me...Maybe she gets her jollys from being with a convicted Sex Offender. But of course I would not considered that being macho since it was with a minor...Clueless here.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
I fully agree wit you that the kids come first. You have to protect them and she obviously has no common sense or judgement. You definitely need FULL CUSTODY and maybe even supervised visits without OM anywhere in sight.
Your sitch would scare the $hit out of me. Try to get an amazing attorney.
I'm sorry to say this, but I cannot comprehend how any woman can be so ignorant that they could fall for a guy like that. Even if he was a multi-millionare! Gosh, some people really do have screws loose in their head.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
