Is anyone here separated and going through a divorce and your H got OW pregnant? thats what im facing, H hasnt seen the kids in almost a yr now and found out that OW is preg and there both denying its his, baby due in Feb, baby was concieved when H was living in apartment with her and i believe that OW is living with him at my inlaws house, me n H spoke last night and had major atitude, i heard another kid there i think she has a kid she said that shes a single mother and what goes on between her and my H is none of my business then she says shes preg, H gained alot of weight has a new wardrobe has his hair the same as he was back in highschool, i dont see any hope for my marriage he has time for OW and her kid and baby on the way but dont have time for the 2 kids that we have together, we get along when OW isnt around, is there any hope, i need advise quick, we have temp hearing within the next month
I am not sure what you are looking for here. You really need to detach and let your h go. There is nothing you can about this or for your h right now. You need to work on your life. Right now ow is in his life whether the baby is his or not. You are going to drive yourself crazy. You must stop now. Do what is best for you and your children. Forget about your h. He is very lost right now.
i just dont get it why did he have to break our family to start a new life with a 21 yr old, do they really think life is so great with a younger girl, next month we will be married for 6 yrs and he gave that up for a 21yr old that he works with any advise on that 1
Well he pretty much admitted the baby is his and he ha OW living with him, why is he doing this, me nad her had a run in over the phone and hes trying to say that it will be less child support that he has to pay me since he has another on the way, is that true or will the support stay the same? and hes saying that hes not paying spousal support and OW said that she got preg after i left and its not adultery since i left, i told them both that we are still legally married and that is adultery
He's doing this because he wants to. that's it. He is an adult making adult decisions. that's the facts.
The reason for what he's doing is immaterial. the only question is what are you doing? Are you going to continue to whine and not improve yourself? Or are you going to start working on something you need to fix? Which one?
how is it possible to save a marriage when H got OW pregnant? this is not like him to act like this he is nice to me when she isnt around and when he is around her and we talk he is a complete jerk to me saying hurtful things to me. H 25 me 26 OW 21
You have been here a long time. You seem to want to not detach from your situation, you are allowing your husband to say mean things to you, you are not withdrawing as is necessary for anything good to come from this.
So you are stuck, by your own choice it seems.
Are you happy with that? Or would you rather work on what you can change, all by yourself? How about focusing on you for a while? Doing what you want and need in life to be a better person? Why not? What have you got to lose?
well i talked to my attorney, she said that my divorve will be done end of jan if he dont file a response by jan15th n then we will meet to draw up paperwork for the divorce of what i want n give it to the judge to sign, pretty much a default divorce, im heartbroken n sick right now now i know it will be final soon.
