I haven't responded to your posts lately because I didn't know what to say. I don't know anything that will help your situation with H and OW and I am sorry. The one thing I wanted to say was that you need to stop calling and leaving him taunting voice mails. All you are doing is digging yourself further in the hole. I know you are mad and want to lash out but it isn't going to work. I'm sure he knows how long he has to respond and if he doesn't then let it be. You calling him isn't going to make him jump any faster.
You need to keep focusing on yourself and your kids and not worry about him anymore. I know you still love him but calling him and saying those things to him will not make him love you back. You need to not worry so much about him anymore. If you step back and give him breathing space, he may come to the conclusion he misses you and the kids. Right now I am sure he is afraid because he made the mistake of getting OW pregnant and knows you are mad (which you should be). He doesn't want to talk with you so you can keep bringing that up and reminding him of his mistakes. Don't even mention that when you all talk. Try to stay happy and upbeat when you talk to him. There is always a chance unless you keep pushing him away.
Well H filed a response we have a temp hearing and he putin the response that cs should be based on his income and other dependent minors that he has to support, temp hearing is Feb 12, either OW will still be preg, already have baby or will go to labor while he is gone thats if he even shows. and he has no attorney and my attorney said for visitation that we will put down that comes where im at and that OW can not be around my kids or me so pretty much he can leave her in OR where she belongs, thats gonna cause a fight between them and H got mad when i asked was he coming to court he said t hat he didnt know there was a tem-p hearing when my atty mailed the papers out jan 9th and court already ordered mediation for sometime after hearing.
Don't deal with your husband or OW, just go through your attorney.
Personally.... for child support reasons (and I could be wrong, but your attorney could clarify this)... I would probably try to get the D through as quickly as possible. Until the baby is born he does not have other biological children he needs to support. I'm not familiar with state or federal laws on this but it may be that until it's born, it's not a "viable" child yet.
You may want to ask your attorney about these things... Can an unborn child be factored-in on current child support? Once it's born how would that affect your child support? What if he isn't the biological father? You might want proof of paternity addressed.
Don't ask your husband any more questions, don't call him about court dates, Don't talk with him or OW directly about the divorce (especially don't discuss any divorce details or stategies with them!!!), and stop thinking about his life. Just take care of you and your kids.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
