Wife Has A Friend.

[Troy]

Wife keeps calling me for financial assistance. I know she has been seeing someone else (she admitted). She claims nothing has happened but I know she is lying. I do not know what to do. I want to save this marriage but the interferance for the OM is making this very hard. I read somewhere that affairs generally last about 3-6 months. This is the second time this has happened. Finances are the catalyst. See "She's not in love anymore."

[attorneytom]

Hi Troy ! Just stopping by... How are you feeling this evening ? Remember me ?

Tom

[Troy]

Yeah Tom. I am trying to have patience. It is hard when you know the one you are supposed to be with is not thinking strait right now.

[attorneytom]

It sure is ! That is when it really helps to find things to take the mind off of it all.. and put yourself into perspective as a person and your own best friend !

Tom

[Troy]

Hey Tom, if you can e-mail me @ [e-mail] There are a couple of things I would like to ask you. Bounce some Ideas off you If that is OK.

[attorneytom]

Sure .. no problem .. I am not a TN atty though just so you know, Troy.

Tom

[attorneytom]

Troy.. I sent you an email jsyk.. just in case it might have been dropped. I hope you are ok this evening !

Tom

[12102006]

Try

Hi there...sorry to hear that you two aren't together, but
let me state that I had an A, so did my H, we are D now,
he lives with hos OW. I didn't know he was cheating, until
we were getting D...

You know that the OM is not the issue...never will be, but
it's how you react to it - that matters.

You need to focus on you...changes you need to make that
will improve the overall state of your M.

If you need to diet, change clothes, cut hair - do it.
Keep a PMA every time...be polite to her, don't argue,
don't accuse...so what, she's having an A or has in the
past...people are dying in Iraq daily, never to come home
again...you see how unimportant an A is. It's a red flag
telling you both...the M is in trouble. Correct the problems or move on.

Work on all the issues that are against the R - change you
in all this that led up to her having an A - do not worry
another second about the A - she wasn't "pure" when you M
her, so what is the complaint now?

I don't mean that in a negative way - but to impress upon
you that the focus has to be on you and what you can do to
make yourself the "love of her Life" as you once were.

[attorneytom]

Exactly ! Focus on YOU Troy. Why did your W marry you ? Why did you marry your W ? What has changed in your life ? and what has caused the changes ? You know the answers.. We dont.. Tell me.. ?

Tom

[Tiara Boy (CM)]

Troy~ Listen to AT and 12102006 they offer outstanding advice. Focus on yourself first and foremost. And when you are done focusing on you, turn around and then focus on yourself some more.

Keep your head up.