I guess my other thread locked. It has been really slowing down at work lately. My friend who had the stroke will not be coming back to work but it is still slow. I am the newest hire, so I am now layed off till after the 1st of the year or until things pick back up. So now, do I wait and see if things pickup and I get called back which I know I will if that happens, or do I look for something else just in case it stays slow. I can see their point in not wanting to have to pay out the holiday pay and such if there truly is not enough work. So I will be home for awhile and puting in apps. for jobs that I probably don't really want just to be sure I am secure. This is not what I wanted right before the holiday's.
Now I am not sure what this will do with my plan to save the house. It just makes thing so unsure for me at a time when this is the last thing I needed.
I have to take Snooky for a haircut so I will post later. I just really feel out of control right now.
Sue.....sorry to hear about the job. Yes, it is definatley the last thing you need right now. Just when things seem at thier lowest something else happens. Sometimes tho.....things happen for a reason, so go out and look for something else while you are waiting to hear about your old one. Maybe something much better will come along, like a blessing in disguise. You never know!
Keep your head up sweetie!
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
My buddy! I'm sorry mamma, when it rains it pours doesn't it? Listen, you put that resume out there, and you start looking. Maybe the job for you is out there, and all this crap is a blessing in disguise, if we don't look at things in a positive light, we are going to get sucked in to the bad side, and who needs that crap.
So Snooky is going to be smelling so good soon, don't you love when the go to the groomer.
Post a pic of snooky so i can fall in love with her.
HUGS mamma. When we are down to nothing God is up to something.
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
I'm sorry to hear about you being temporarily laid off, but maybe Lissett is onto something. Maybe there is a terrific job out there just waiting for you to apply. Worse case, you put out a few resumes and nothing happens--then you have your answer.
Of course, I wouldn't be so calm if it was me, LOL, but I like Lissett's take on it--very positive.
I have really been sturggling since I went to the attorney on the 17th, so I haven't posted. I went to see him on Friday am and that evening my daughter came in from CO for the week. The attorney revised my offer on the house, set a time limit, informed H that this was the final offer and that after this we would go to court for the judge to decide and he would need to hire an attorney. The attorney said I was more generous than he would have been and that if he doesn't take the offer he will most likely come away with less than what I offered. Of course after H saw it, he said it wasn't enough. I said well it is all I will offer so you can take it or leave it. He said I want a D and I will take all I can get when we go to court. I said "whatever" and then he sat around at the house with his dog and mine playing outside and he ate brownies and visited like we were old friends. He stood at the patio door and looked out and said, we always had a nice view here, didn't we. So far neither I or my attorney have heard anything at all. H is back out in NY working so who knows what will happen.
It looks like the beginning of the end for me. If he wants a D he can have it, but he needs to do the work to get it rolling.
The week with my daughter was wonderful, but now that she left, I am very lonely. We had a great Thanksgiving dinner at my dad's with family and friends. Lot of fun and laughter and lots of leftovers.
I guess this might the beginning of the end but with all his creditors calling the house, I need to do whatever I need to do to protect myself and my investment. After 14+ months of trying to make things work out, I guess it is time for some tough love and to start looking out for #1- me. His daughter says he will get caught up but she has a lot to learn because soon summer will come and he will only want to work 4 days/wk and that is when all this trouble started in the 1st place. Oh well, I guess I can just be happy that it is no longer my problem.
Soon I will be totally free. That is not what I wanted, but it is what it is.
Hope everything is going better than this for all of you my friends.
But that this may be the"end" who knows!!!!!!!!!!!
Mamma, you have to protect yourself financially, and you are taking care of yourself, you are doing it, thru the hurt but you are doing it.
And I for one, am very impressed with you and your decision.
Hey, it could just be a swif kick in the butt for your H.
I love how he uses WE, while looking at the view.
dork!
HUGS sweets sorry you are lonely!!!!!!!!!!!!
I will let you borrow my kids, I'm sure they will drive you crazy in about half hour, and you will want the house all to your self again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
It's not what any of us wanted. But it is the hand we were dealt, unfortunately. All we can do is find a way to take comfort in being alone. It's hard and in know for me it comes in waves. But we have no choice.
I am not always lonely, but I guess it is just because my daughter just left and the holidays are coming up. What really scares me is that I thought I would feel more devastated when the word "D" came up. All I feel is a little sad to think he can throw away 23 years just like it never meant anything. He and ow are still "just friends" and have not started to live together. That would be the best thing for both of them because she is bipolar and he is demanding so it would be over as soon as it started. As long as it is just an EA, he may stay in the fog of thinking how great she is forever. Oh well, there is nothing I can do about that.
Since I am laid off right now I am doing lots of bible study and I find I look forward to it each day. I also decided to re-read the whole bible again and it still amazes me about all the rules that God gave his people and how little people would obey them today.
I have not been too lonely today as the bill collectors have once again started calling for H. He and his daughter told me they got caught up with the payments, but that can't be true as they started calling me yesterday. I have told them he doesn't live here but since it is the only # they have, they are persistent in calling. At least I know I need to move quickly on the house before they try to attach his debt to it and I could loose that too.
I missed not being here will try to get caught up asap with everyone.
Another bipolar OW? Isn't YR's H's OW bipolar, too? My H's OW is just an immoral slut. Anyway, glad today was okay. I'm laid off as well. It sounds like yours is temporary. Not mine. Well, I shoudl say, it is temporary, but I don't know when or where i'll find another job.
hey Sue - it's been quite a month for you - but you seem a bit more comfortable with your D situation. Every time you write about your H it just seems so obvious to me how much he doesn't want a divorce. He talks a big talk but can't stay away from you - nor does he seem to want to stay away from you. he sounds like a barking dog and nothing more.
you will probly find a great deal of wisdom and insight in your bible study while your laid off. Make this time be really special quality time just for you. It may be the best time on this journey so far if you set your mind in that direction.
hugs and prayers,
brue
I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine. Life is good for the Brue!
You never know!
