Well that was a total failure...

[LostGal]

I know I've made mistakes. Especially after reading Erectile Dysfunction: A Woman's Point of View

I've had 3+ years of counselling and I've learned a lot about me. Frankly though, I've learned more about others here than with the C.

Has anyone gone the medical/chemical route for depression? Does it work? Do you become dependant?

I'm at the point of Brave New World.

Last night I went to put the spices on the porkchops for grilling and some grilling salts were already applied. I got the baked potatoes in and the nuc'd vegetables out and was caught in an anxiety delema whether to wash off the spices or not.

I had been told that "nothing he does is right. I find fault with everything." Now here I was going to change the spices applied to make the chops blend better with the vegetables. I finally said WTH and went ahead.

The result was
H: Ohh! (glea) you have seasoned the meat! What did you use?

M: Pepper and.....Frankly I was concerned you'd be upset.

H: Why would I be upset?!?

Total confusion on my part.
M: But you were so unhappy for me changing your efforts.

H: You inhanced the chops.

???????????????

After grilling and the parts came together on the counter, I looked to the table and H is sitting legs outstretched poised to be served. (I have noticed he pays a LOT of attention to the presentation of food) This board gave me the insight to realize that he feeds off being served.

I presented the food, not without silent bias I'm afraid. I'll never forget the feeling I had of waiting, servatude. I know I didn't just do that but gave him a big "love ya". I guess the trouble is maybe I don't.

I have this big damn chip. How the hell do you get past it?

[LostGal]

I have read and re-read the article above and I truly think the Drs are 'smoking something'. When a guy has a bad night, it's perfectly fine. Gals don't climax every time and that's fine.

When it’s past the few times successful and totally impossible, the guy gets so angry with all things that the blame game, "You always come to talk about THAT!" runs rampant. Even if its honest concern that you are expressing.