I'm not truly religious. However this fellow, Ed Young, has a motivational and familiar way of communicating (even humorous). This program on Anger and the total Good and Angry Series has helped me and has, I think, worked with H in the background, even tho he pretended not to listen.
(Some of the "belongs to the man" part I'll challange and say its not Man, but Human *grins*.)
Give it a listen, maybe it will help. I have been able to understand his suggestions without belonging to his church.
