Less sex now than back then. BF seeing therapist for a year-- has changed him a lot for the better. A month ago I started going with him to the therapist every other week.
I told him I wanted to zero out the odometer and start from scratch. We got off on the wrong foot in 2002 with me being newly widowed and him being an active alcoholic.
His twins were just starting high school; now they're both away at college. We lost two beloved dogs, one to death, one ran away during a rainstorm. We have another dog we both love very much. His mom is needing to get out of the bar business; she'll soon be 89. We've been through heart surgery (him), shingles (me), job loss (him), alanon (me), therapy (both, separately and together), workshops (both), choir concerts (both), three trips to see my husband's grown son & family at Christmas (they ADORE bf)... lots of water over and under the dam (damn).
Many changes in the last four years. Being with him is Spiritual Boot Camp for me, and I pretty much have to grow or die. So far I've grown.
Quote: Why am I still here? Because I am, I guess.
And even though it sucks to be here because of the situations we are in, I am happy that you are here because you have given me encouragement, hope, humor, insight, and friendship when I needed it, when I asked for it, and sometimes, when I didn't even realize that I was desparate for it.
Thank you for being here. And if BF miraculously "recovers" and starts rockin' your world, I still hope you'll come back and grace us with your wisdom (and tell us the details, so we can enjoy vicariously).;)
Happy Anniversary Lil. I, for one, have always been glad that you have stayed and shared your wisdom, thoughts, books and life experience.
I have stopped posting much since it was getting me in a negative loop. I am currently frustrated with H and may start posting again. I have really benefitted from learning how I contribute to the issues in my M and from watching others make changes.
We got off on the wrong foot in 2002 with me being newly widowed and him being an active alcoholic. I told him I wanted to zero out the odometer and start from scratch.
Yes those were tough odds Lil. I hope zeroing out the odometer really works for you and bf.
Less sex now than back then Funny, sad, or what ever, that is about what is happening here to a lesser degree.
We lost two beloved dogs, Sorry about the dogs. (((((Lil))))) I know how much they can mean to a person. BB started taking Prozac when one of hers died. It was a sad time for me too.
His twins were just starting high school; now they're both away at college. And I am sure they are in a better position in life for you interacting with them.
medical, therapy etc) Some of that here. I guess common problems effect many of us forum friends.
His mom is needing to get out of the bar business I hope that improves your R with your bf.
Being with him is Spiritual Boot Camp for me That is a nice way to put it. I am happy to see you consider it a growing experience.
Why am I still here? Because I am, I guess. Yes, why are so many still here.
Lil, you being here has helped in many ways. More than I can post here.
I highly value your input, advice, and an opportunity to to read about some of your life experiences.
Thank you all so much! It's worth having these problems just to get to meet and interact with such a fine group of people. I mean it. I have learned so much.
