Well… who knew? After 25+ years with the same man… I’m a single woman… geesh!
My story is long and sorted… and on a different area on here… and really I don’t want to go into it anymore.
As of now… my XH and I have quite a bit of contact (this was not a ‘bitter’ D… and in trying to figure out why we do not have the ‘typical’ D… my XH said, “Neither of us want to burn our bridges… you never know what the future holds.” I agree with him. And I do know that since our D… (all his decision) he has definitely regretted it. And told me so. But he’s a stubborn; proud man.
Anyhow… all that is not why I’m writing here today. I’m writing here about GAL. I know this may sound pathetic but how do you do that?? I’m lonely. I’m sad… and I just don’t know what to do with myself! I find that all I do is go to work; go from work to the gym; from the gym to my apartment… then I don’t know what to do… other than watch TV.
And before you say it… I don’t have friends. My H was my friend. I did everything with him. So get all the ‘what a whiner she is’s’ out of your system and throw me some suggestions… please!
My first suggestion is...work on that self-esteem...you are NOT stupid. There are more than a few people who can't figure it out alone. Do things you enjoy. Don't know what those are? Find out. Experiment. Read a book on making friends. There are tons out there.
First - make a list of "wildest dreams" - things you'd like to do, but maybe haven't because you were scared or thought you'd fail or it was too expensive or whatever.
Then - prioritize that list - according to level of desire.
Then - brainstorm a way to start pursuing one of those goals. Want to learn to scuba dive? Sign up for a class. Want to climb a mountain? Find a local hiking club and start training.
As for friendships - make a list of all your current or past acquaintances. Put a star next to people you think you'd like top know better, or would like to reconnect with. Make a plan to start contact with those people - make a lunch date, or invite a few people over for dinner.
Join a club or class related to an interest of yours - you'll meet people with similar interests.
It will happen, but you will have to plan and attack this problem like any other project if it doesn't come naturally to you.
