I had an Xue day almost caused some poor guy to crash he was staring at me while driving into the car park and he smiled so I smiled back and he nearly ran into another car why is this an Xue day - well all the ladies watch you
Crackin up here. Thanks BJ. Yes things are going good.
Interesting conversation yesterday. It seems the W of our business partner in our other school has been on the verge of being a WAW for years. She's come close lately and is definetely in that detached stage. We were there on Sunday with them and my W sat and listened to her story. I got an earful on the way home. It's the old "Lousy marriage and she's not strong enough to walk away so she's resolved herself to a miserable life"
Lot's of "He's such an..." type comments. So I borroweb phoenix-sparks stapler and stapled my mouth shut. All it could say was uhu and yeah.
But yesterday the conversation came up. We had coffee and talked about it. And the thing is it was just a conversation. Not each of us trying to prove the other wrong. Good conversation.
W- She's told him a thousand times what she wants
M- In another language
I didn't go to far with the convo but got some really good pooints. Felt if I carried it to far it would be me proving myself right. Not good.
So I think that right now I'm in a really good position of being able to help myself by helping someone else. Not bad.
BJ, I realized recently how true it is how the women look at me when I just be myself. As you know I'm a martial artist and there is something basic in a woman's biology that attracts her to a man that moves like us black belts do. I remember I used to notice them watching all the time. Caught my wife doing it the other day. My unoficial logo has been for years "Turning geeks into studs for over a decade" And it's so true. I've taken so many guys that couldn't get a girl and eventually they get to a position where they can't beat them off with a stick.
Guess I should do that for myself.
TJ the stuff you turned me onto really hit home. Here I am, 20 years training in MA. Hate to describe myself this way but everyone else describes me as a "total Badass" Yet what's been going on inside for the last few years is quite the opposite. What a revelation.
Well now it's "My Ride"
My wife made a comment along those lines the other day "Bad ass martial artist, smartest guy you'll ever meet, and he can't even remember his cell phone" That line hit me hard because I knew in her mind she inserted something else at the end.
Things are good. Moving along. Waiting for this thread to lock. Good things happen when my thread locks.
Good stuff. My WAW and I have had those convo's as well. We have some friends that are going through a really rough patch - and we were able to have a convo about it - even with some verbal sparring going on - and it was still GOOD. Actually great.
Ohhh, I hear the lock monster....
O&U.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
Well, then let's get this puppy locked....glad you're liking the material - it only gets better with time - did you get the interview series yet or do you want me to send you a couple of copies? Freakin' great stuff.....
It's actually pretty simple - you steer the car of your life and let NO ONE grab the wheel from you...esp your woman....women have a biological need to "test" men to see if they'll stay true to themselves or wuss out and compromise themselves (Hi!)....strong men will be there for THEM when they need us the most - wusses will flake and leave 'em high and dry....
Oh - and next time she busts you on the cell phone bit - look her right in the eyes very seriously and say something like..."Babe......(pause).......I know something about you.......(pause).........this is why you find me so ridiculously HOT" and then pull her hair and laugh and wander away on your own path again. Guess who'll be following right behind......
