Sometimes I read someone's post and think: "hmmm.. why is he/she seeking advice? He talks about so many positive signs, he already knows what to do, it's right there, in the text, even not between but in the lines".
Sometimes when Iread my own old posts, I see the difference between me of that time and now, how the situation had changed When I read my own old e-mails I often find solutinos to many questions, pices of wisdom I knew at that time but somehow lost.
An answer is always hidden inside the question; asking a good qustion is half-way a solution. When I was in college, my Mom would tell me before my exams: "read the question. Read the question. IF you think you don'tknow the answer -- read the question". And it worked miracles! You just sit there and read, read, reread... And suddently you know the solution.
It is often so tempting to say: "You know it all - just read what you just posted!".
I am not saying we should stop posting -- just the opposite, I encourage us to go back to our own words and reread them
I am not saying we should stop posting -- just the opposite, I encourage us to go back to our own words and reread them.
Great advice!!
It really helps to use your postings as sort of a "solution journal". Go back through your threads, and see what you have and haven't tried, and what has and hasn't worked for you. Do more of the what worked things, and, with the help of others, explore and be open to trying things that you haven't done before.
Try not to got stuck on figuring out the "right and logical" thing to do before you begin your efforts. More often than not, you might just need to get your feet moving, and experiment and monitor the results.
JJ
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