2nd Time Learning IV

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IWB

Good to see you posting again, looks like our families are going down the same path, my son had to re-sit the school year again, after failing last year, he is struggling again this year, and he learning the same stuff. Daughter who always got top marks is now flunking.

Our wives do not see the butterfly effect their actions have. It is always someone elses fault. My wife is blaming the teachers and the school. Duh!!


The power of positive thinking, unfortunatley easier said than done, but it does work

You wife will love it in the other room, it will be her cave, where she can shut out the world.

[poohbear]

IWB...I see you're still at it. Everything you are experiencing, we all have. I remember the feelings of having your wife in the same house and not being able to even touch her. My W has been gone for almost a year now. I know it is easier said than done, but you have to let go. I know it's even harder when you have to see her every day. Back in January, I took a long, deep breath, and gave my situation and life to God. I decided to let go, and let whatever will happen, happen. My W has reiterated that she will file when she can. Funny thing is, I feel the best I've felt in a long time. Certain events have occurred in my life that I choose not to discuss yet. But, I took a leap of faith, and feel that I am going in the right direction.

Ken, whatever you do, do not blame yourself. Don't feel that God is punishing you for something you did wrong in your life. I've learned to see this experience exactly as it should be; a learning experience, a life's lesson.

The best thing you can do is maintain a PMA. Even when you don't feel positive, you can will yourself into a positive attitude. I could not believe my W's reaction to my attitude. Albeit, she will still file, her feedback has definitely changed from venom to civil. It will make things easier in the end.

Ken, I know I've told you before, but keep your head up. Realize that these things are out of your control. Let go and let God. You will be rewarded in the end. Anyway, we have to keep the state of Maryland a promising place to live.

[IWB]

Thanks for replying guys. I respect you both very much.

Poohbear, I have prayed and prayed about whether I should move out or not. Also, my W can go if she wants. I would tell her how I feel, but I would let her go. She just has not, although she likes to make things difficult for me here. I am not sure if that is so much her condition, or whether she is trying to make me want to feel bad.

I always receive the same answer each time I think about leaving. I feel I am supposed to stay here and support my family, even though it may be difficult. Especially my youngest daughter who I feel needs my example, love and protection from what is going on. Obedience is learned through suffering. And yes, I need to surrender and let God take control. I have done this in so many ways.

[poohbear]

IWB...I totally agree with staying. I never thought of leaving my own home. At one point when my W was still living in the house, I had commented to her that everything was being done her way. She replied that if everything was being done her way, I would be moving out. I told her, she could forget about that. Why would I move if you are the one who wants to end it. That was the last time that ever came up.

I think staying is the right thing to do. You are setting an example for your children. They may not understand at this point. But, when they are older, they will appreciate you for what you did. I have 2 teenage daughters and a 6yo son. I have to be strong for all of them.

I remember how my mother raised me and my brother alone. It didn't hit me until I became a parent myself. I called her and apologized to her and told her how much I appreciated everything she did. This is what you have to look forward to by staying strong fro them.