Is this a sign we can work this out?

[needpatience]

My H and I have been seperated since March. I had a MLC which included an affair. It was more emotional then anything. Affair was about 2 months. H moved out in March. We have a 2 yr old. After counseling I come to realize I am still in love with my H and want things to work out. I have read the books. I think they really helped. Two weeks ago my husband began to flirt with my over the cell phone and we ended up at our house making love. We didn't say anything about it after. He gave me a kiss goodbye and went back to work. Days after seemed like he was stand offish until last night. Oh and by the way he is seeing someone although he keeps telling everyone it is not serious. The other night we chatted for 2 hours via text message. The flirting happened again. I told him he needs to figure out what he wants before something sexual happens between us again. He said he just wants me to let loose and have fun with him for a change without anyone butting in our lives. He doesn't want to me talking to anyone about what we do or say. I think he is afraid of the OW knowing what is going on. At first I held back but then thought about it and said fine. I figured if we did this and hung out to try and rekindle our flame again, I know things will work out between us. He does still love me and wants his family back on track. He is very much a family man but just very hurt from everything I have put him through. Our whole family wants to see us get back together. We have full support from family and friends. Lately my H has been stand offish again. I don't know if I am coming or going anymore. It is hot and then cold. Please let me know your input on my situation.

[wed2alien]

I would think it would be normal for him to be a little gun shy right now. Remember how badly he must have been hurt. Trust takes times to rebuild.

I would keep it slow, don't push him, just be happy and have fun again. These good memories you will be creating will help replace the sad ones.

wed