Stage 3 - Everything Would Be Great If YOU Changed.
Stage 4 - That's Just The Way My Partner Is.
Stage 5 - Together, At Last!
Where do you see your relationship as being at now on the marriage map? For both you and your partner?
What stages have you been to already?
What stages have you spent the most time in, and which ones have you seemed to breeze right through, or maybe even bypassed?
How do you feel about the thought of bouncing back and forth between stages? About the stages sometimes being "three steps forward, and two steps back"? Does this help to give you hope for where you're at on the map right now?!
To quote Michele....
Quoting : -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The quality and quantity of love you feel for each other are never stagnant. Love is dynamic. So is marriage. The wiser and more mature you become, the more you realize this. The more you realize this, the more time you and your spouse spend hanging out in Stage 5. Together, at last. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Your thoughts on this?
JJ
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I think this is an excellent thread and one we would all do well to explore.
I've learned that a strategy is a way of using resources to consistently produce a desired result.
Michele has revealed the common path of successful marriages. The stages people have consistently gone through, to get the results that DBers desire. She's given us a map, but it's up to each of us to develop our own strategies to follow it.
I'm putting a lot of stock in Michele's marriage map because I believe it to be reliable.
My question is, what might be a good way of showing or explaining the map to a WAW who doesn't like to read, and is just now, after 19 years of resisting, saying she's going to start opening up to me more, and has even given some indication she's interested in hearing what I have to say?
The Marriage Map makes total sense. How might we share it with our spouse?
So what happens when you are at one stage and your S is at another?
Even though we have been married 10 years, I am still at the 1st stage or at least I went back to it, where as S is probably at the Why did I do this stage or the thats the way H is.
