WAS been out of house for 3 months, A is now 5 months old. OM is basically living an WAW apartment. WAW took me for support, support system is slow getting her the money. She is now asking for help, I told her I would be there for her but that was when OM was temporarily out of picture. She has not received any money yet but they have taken it out of my pay. She needs money, I really don't have very much cash. I have been GAL, 180s, and taking care of myself and children, all the DB stuff. Do I help her with an IOU signed by her, tell her tough luck you wanted it this way, tell her to ask OM who she thinks can walk on water?
You're taking care of the kids and they live with you? Then I don't understand why she needs support. Can't she get a job? I don't see why you have any legal or moral obligation to give her anything, and I don't think I would if I were you.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
I personally think that if they've already deducted it from your paycheck, then you shouldn't go beyond that. She's the one who took the legal route to have it taken from your check, so if she doesn't like the results of that system, it's certainly not your fault. I think giving her money enables the affair, and that's the last thing you want to her. Her financial hardships are good, from your point of view, because you want her to face the facts of life without you in the picture.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
I'm interested in hearing what others have to say about the relationship between money and DBing. My BIL gave me the advice to "cut W totally off" because in his opinion it would set W free (and myself free at the same time). W is not willing to give anything to relationship but willing to take money..... Anyway, I can understand your reluctance to help while wondering how it will affect your DB efforts.
by the way, I am taking care of S4 while W has been gone for 6 months now......
