Well, just from what you have shared in your last few posts, it seems to me that neither of you really like each other very much. You might have love for each other, but the like part is just not there, and very little respect. Big problem. I don't see how either of you can "ravish" each other if you can't stand being in the same room together. Maybe you need to figure out that piece of the puzzle first before dealing with a hot sex life.
My love language is taking care of him - he thinks of it as being motherly and nurturing. When it comes to ML I want the tenderness and taking time, the romantic approach for the foreplay and then I have no problem being the animal that he wants me to be. He wants the animal right away. When we ML I often say to him "gentle" he asnweres "I don't know how".....that's as far as I got to telling him what I like...I admit that I'm more open about telling him what I don't like. I won't do AS because when we tried it it hurt like hell. Our last major fight was over it - he was trying to have it but when I confronted him about it he denied that those were his intensions. He feels that I"m not adventurous becuase I am not willing to do certain things....
The feeling of not standing to be in the same room with him started after the last session. I know that it's his behaviour (very childish) that does it to me but that's slowly becoming a pattern and I will not settle for it.
The C suggested I write my H a note regarding the upcoming weekend. We made plans with a bunch of friends - I still want to be able to enjoy that time but know that it will be very uncomfortable if things continue th way they are. I wrote him an email saying that we are both hurting right now and probably need more time to solve it but we should talk about the weekend. So far no reply....benefit of the doubt is that he is not by his desk...or maybe he just doesn't want to answer?
