Survey on hatred - WAS -

[deezee]

Just a quick survey here -

If you have a WAS, does he/she openly hate you or is it just anger and a lack of caring?

I'll start: lots of anger, no signs of hate (yet?).

[Hanging__On]

No signs of hate. It just seems like a lack of caring in my situation. I believe the guilt of it all has taken a huge toll on the W.

[underether]

I know that my W is angry but I don't think she hates me. She just doesn't think that what she has received out of our M justifies staying or working toward reconciliation. This is what I know today. However, things change with time and maybe she will reconsider her position in the future. I am just spending my time preparing for the time she decides to return or file for D.

underether

[believing_isaiah43]

Oh, at the beginning of this mess, ABSOLUTELY, my WAH just hated me, had nothing but anger toward me. But the alien pod people finally returned the man to his semi-right mind (and I changed my reactions to him as well) and we are currently 'piecing' it together. Ya'll, it's almost worse than the outright rage, b/c you knew exactly where you stood with yelling and harsh words, but not so much with limbo-land emotionally.

Anyway, all that to say a strong emotion like Hate toward you is still a STRONG EMOTION TOWARD YOU, and can turn around. Hang on, and keep DBing in the face of it.

[RBinBR]

Mine doesn't show either anger or hate, just "friendship love" and guilt. The only time in the 8 months of this she was really angry was for a week after I kicked her out back in January.

[GratefulMama0204]

lots of anger, the whole guilt turned outward thing.

[leslie]

After the bomb and he left, there was two weeks where I could feel it, like hate. One time I sat next to him, about a week after it started, and I could tell he was fighting to not push me away (I was sitting like two feet from him), which is COMPLETELY not normal. It was the anger, real anger, at me and himself...(and guilt)

[Donlee]

I don't know if my wife hates me because I don't think my wife really knows what's going through her head most of the time. I am sure there are extended periods of times when she does hate me. After all it's much easier to carry on with an affair if you can justify it.

[Walking]

I wish he hated me or was angry with me. I wish I hated him or was angry with him.

We just amicably agreed to separate, lovingly split up our stuff and I dutifully pretended not to care that he chose to live with ow.

hate would be an improvement ...

[March4th]

In my case it's anger.
I've made some comments at various times on my thread about this. Isn't the opposite of love actually indifference? I think so. It's not anger or even hate. To me, anger signifies some type of lingering attachment, mixed with frustration, guilt, and regret.