You should think more about the singing/playing. For me, I do get very nervous but in a low-key situation, not as much, plus if I'm in even a small group, I feel much better. What about doing something where your FIL is cared for, either on your own or w/ some others, maybe from church? Do a selection of old-timey tunes everyone can sing along to?
-- Karen
P.S. - I've been pretty busy lately myself, not around in the evenings much or else on-line (so no phone).
I think I will look into that. Don't know why I have not thought of that. There are other church groups that come and sing and such on Sunday morning. I wish I played the guitar so it would be more portable.
Good idea, and true, even with a small group I am not nervous and in a home like that, the folks are just happy someone is doing something.
Bruce
You must be sleeping better then too which is good.
Got a call this afternoon from the OM's X. Have not spoken to her for over a year. She wanted to tell me that the reason she does not wave when I do is because she cannot stand to have anything to do with me, cannot stand any of us, that I was part of the whole deception, that the whole town knows they are living together, that she is sick of seeing them everywhere doing things. She said the my W was talking about her around town telling others that she was disturbed etc. She asked what was wrong with me, I was divorced. I asked her when she was moving away then. WOW, that set her off...she was here first, and we should leave. Then I commented on my feeling that the judge's decree did not end my marriage that I was still married in God's sight and that I was standing for my marriage and when the blinders of Satan are removed W will make a decision according to His wil! She started to really rant and rave so I just hit the "end" button.
I have been praying for her and the OM that their marriage would be restored also. She sounded much like Faith's H when he would be so ugly to her.
Wow, too bad, she really sounds like she's off her rocker. Kind of makes you wonder if she was the MLCer in their M. Who knows (and really who cares, as long as she leaves you alone). I think you handled that well, including simply ending the call. No point continuing to listen to abuse from someone else's spouse on top of what you're already dealing w/ from your own.
Karen, thanks for the validation. The OM's X seems to be very unstable now and has for over a year.
I was late for church this morning....I was talking with a dear friend and got behind. Well who would be sitting there? Yes, my W was there! I passed out the bulletins...another reason for my lateness-tardiness getting info to me for printing- anyway, she handed me some mail.
During a sharing time she shared how D19 was nearly in a very bad accident, unscathed by Divine intervention, that she had dreamt about her being killed in an accident a few days before.
She also shared that last Sunday she stabbed herself in the eyeball with a pocket knife, did not see about it until a day and a half later. Doc says she nearly has lost it, got the infection under control and prognosis is good now. I am disappointed that she did not inform me at all.
Between study and church, she had to leave, but told me that OM's X was stalking her, had with the aid of a friend encircled her in a check out line and said not nice things. I then mentioned the call I received from this woman. She said it is bad, and the OM has commented on how "classy" I have been handling the situation. (Which points to the notion that it is a true affair.) I then told her that what I understand of the spiritual warfare going on in the whole affair, and that a couple days before I had started again to pray for the restoration of OM's and his X's marriage. When God starts to move the devil gets scared and stirs trouble to discourage. I told her that it would be a true miracle and what her X friend had said when I mentioned that I was praying to her, which is evidence that God is working. I agree with Karen that the OM's X has been and still is in MLC.
I may have been mistaken, but I think she was trying hard to control the shock. She did say then to just keep doing what is right and we had to part.
It is a beautiful day, so Rose and I are going for a walk. I am so extremely pleased and happy that Faith's H asked her to dinner at their favorite establishment without the kids. If not for the lice, we would have to go bodily peal her from the ceiling.
PS If you are lurking behind the scenes here Ann, I love you unconditionally and sacrificially.
This afternoon Rose and I walked. I decided to walk in the opposite direction that we usually do for a change. It is along an old railroad bed, lots of cyclists and horses. And in walking about 5 miles, my little W drove by coming from seeing her dad, with the top down on her TT. Though she could not have missed seeing us being we were just 15 feet away, she neither honked or waved.
Ah, but I was in her sight one more time today.
Glorious day, may take in a movie tonight. Then again may not. A little rest would feel really good.
Interesting (and kind of weird) conversation. And I see you two are in an odd way united against the same whacko. It will be interesting to see what transpires. I hope for that other woman's sake she gets some help some day.
The following is merely an academic exercise, as #1 who knows (she probably doesn't) and #2 it does not matter.
Quote: Why would she (W) not inform me about her eye? It was very serious!
Why should she tell you? It's not like you're her H or anything (from her perspective). Believe me, my H could be in treatment for cancer right now and I'd never know. Besides, it might make her look (pick one) a) weak, b) stupid, c) like she needs help from you.
Quote: Why did she mention that she is alone in the office all day Wednesdays?
That one sounds like a random comment, though your theory is possibly correct, not that it means anything!
