My WH planned a surprise weekend - we leave tomorrow. I think he is trying to connect with me. It has only been 1 week since I found out about the A. Tonight we went out to visit our grandchild and we planned on stopping to get a pizza. He asked, "Do you have any cash with you, I only have about $20.". I replied no, but a few slices of pizza wouldn't be more than $20. We drove a little then he said, "I guess I'll get some cash". I said you probably don't need to for a few slices of pizza. He blew up, "Well what if I don't want a few slices" Really angry. Then he said, "We'll just go f..ing home". I shut right up. About 5 minutes later I realized that I was treating him like a mother (One of his complaints) and I apologized. He said, What are you apologizing for? I said for making you feel like you couldn't do what you wanted - go for the cash. I was trying to DBing. But it didn't feel good. My thougts were: you just had an A and I have to be so tuned in to your feelings!!
I think he overeacted. He could have said in a calm voice, "I may want to have something more than pizza, and if I do, I will need more cash? Not blew up.
We came home and he went right to bed. Said not one word. Now the mood for leaving on this surprise weekend is ruined. What do I do now?
I am not supposed to cry in front of him - so I am sitting here posting and crying into the keyboard.
Doobie, it is usually best to just keep posting to one thread. It makes it hard to follow you if you keep creating new threads each time you post something new.
Hang in there and realize that this is called a roller coaster for a reason. It's hard, it really is.
Now, I am confused, your H planned this trip, which you suspect is his way of reaching out to you, then he blows up like that. When he told you about the trip, was he in a good mood? How long after that was the pizza thing?
Like I said, stay on this thread, keep posting to it and you will get more people stopping in to help.
