Oh well, couldn't figure out the photo thing. I'll just remain mysterious I guess
I took a much needed break from the board for a few weeks and am happy to report the M is greatly improving. H and I have joined bank accounts again and are removing the separation agreement from the court record. I feel good about things even though the sex issue is still about where it was before. The difference is MY attitude about it. H stated clearly that he is not comfortable being so dominant with me and I am letting that sink in. I am willing to compromise on this one for the betterment of the M. I just feel a little more mellow about the whole issue and I think that is good for me. Need to get going but will post more another time. Hope everyone is well!!!
From OG_Lou's thread I told myself I had to leave several times but only stopped posting for a couple of days.
LFL, I enjoyed your posts and sorry to see you leave the board. I am still thinking about what you said "Oy Vey. You men. Get your heads out of the books and in between our legs.......You need to be able to read the subtle nuances of a woman, not the words in any book. " I appreciated that advice.
In this thread, I said I wanted to reduce my black or white thinking and/or actions. Please consider that thought for your situation. I think this forum has help many people but it can also be addictive.
I find many things that work for a while then they don't work anymore or some other problem comes up so I come back looking for more answers either here or hopefully in a book.
Sometimes I find answers here, some time I find the strength to continue with any new solutions to our problems. Other times I feel like I rely too much on some outside influence and am just addicted to hope.
Even though we can't make your H do anything you want him to do, we still think of you and value you as a good friend and are always here wishing you well. I just wanted to say, visit when you can. Post a little update if you feel like it.
Lou
Thank you Lou for that post from a few weeks ago. You are a kind man. This board can be addicting so I am trying to cut back, but I find the people here so interesting it is hard to stay away. Plus, like you, I am trying to reduce the black and white thinking too. I'm usually all in or all out. kwim? On the board or off, in the M or out. It's tough to find that middle ground but I am really feeling some progress in this area. Everything in moderation I guess. I'm even cutting back on the chocolate consumption, lol. But I can't give that up. Hope you are well and good luck with your IC!
Now what is this about you giving up chocolate! What are you nuts woman Chocolate makes the world go round. Who will I have such decadent conversations about in the future if you give up this wonderful treat.
I am glad to hear things are going better for you and your H. I hope they continue to improve. I hope that does not mean you intend to leave the board. I enjoy reading your post.
Hi Chrissy! Bite your tongue! I didn't say I was giving up chocolate, just cutting back...some...a little...a smidgen. Maybe. I need some vices in life. Don't we all. Actually H and I have been trying to eat healtheir because we usually just eat garbage. Yummy garbage, but garbage nonetheless. Plus, we are going on vacation in July with our friends and who wants to where a swimsuit in front of other families feeling like a lump. Thus, the slight health kick we have been on. H has definitely been working out more and eating better and I think that is making him feel better about himself too. Hopefully, that will translate into some hot sex soon. I hope you are feeling better. Last time I checked your post you seemed pretty down. I need to catch up on some of these threads. Was only reading here and there the last two weeks. Hey, where's your photo Chrissy? Feel like sharing?
Hi IHJ! Good quote. And too true. sigh This is why I am trying to reign it in a little. All pleasure all the time...just not realistic. Trying to have a little more self-discipline. But it's hard for me
Hi Chrome! What kind of diet is that?! Horrid. I think you really should be able to eat whatever you want but just in smaller portions. That's where the self-control comes in. Eating lettuce all day is a sure way to fail. Food is very sensual. Should be enjoyed and savored. I don't want any crappy low fat, no tasting food. blech Also another reason why I need to workout at the gym regularly. I like to eat too much.
One way to help the diet is to eat slowly. The brain is abour 20-30 minutes behind the stomach in registering fullness, so eating slowly should cause you to eat less and still have the same fullness feeling.
