I'll try to make it short. We broke up in Aug. didn't talk at all until D finial in Dec. We started talking, I had made some big changes she had made none. My changes-quit drinking so much (around her never), went back to school, and some other minor things. We started going out, talking good take on the phone every night. She went to out of town for the week with friends didn't call or nothing (valintines week) she said that it had never been important to me before. It bothered me and then she used my ccard and got in with some company that started charging it left and right. Of course it was denied (i just got a d and have bills). She called several times but I didn't answer the phone. Next to last called she left a message saying she missed her best friend (meaning me) so I answered the next time still acting kid of childish, (or maybe I should be mad) She said she just didn't think it was going to work out but she had to take the kid to school and she would call me later-I said if you feel that way than don't bother. Well, its been about 4 weeks now and nothing. I have called 4 or 5 times and no answer even from her parents and I would be supprised if they were not answering my calls. Her cell phone has not been used once either (i get the bill) i have sent 3 short emails and no response. To me it looks like I have gotten the heave ho which sends me back to the same feeling I had when I was getten the D but then again something could have happened. Her dad lives in a different town and he is very sick maybe dieing. I don't know what do to. My plan now is just to go back to where I was thinking it is over and try to continue on improving my life. And suggestions on how to make myself feel like I lost this battle twice now?
I don't know if I will be of any help since I've lost the battle and are in the middle of the war with the D we are heading to mediation so I don't know what else to do. anyway I think you should back off and see what happens and in that time focus on your life and how you can improve it go out with friends and have fun and maybe she will see what she is missing. that is if you want her back do you b/c I'm not sure by what you said in your post about she didn't hink it would work out I'm noone is 100% sure it will work the first time let alone the second time give it space and see what if anything happens I hope I helped some Joa.
It's rough when there is no contact, I feel your pain. Start focusing on what it is that you really want for your life, what are you going to do next.
If you really are her best friend, and she wants to talk with you...she will find an excuse. Four weeks is not a long time, although I know it feels like it.
If she does come back, be a little more careful with your words, try to be a little more understanding. That is also very hard to do.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding
