Thank you GH for taking the time to respond. I don't know if you are right about my H coming around when he realizes that I am not there for him...my best friend says the same thing. I do know that the way that I have been going has been completely unhealthy for me, and for him. The strange thing is, we still have this incredible R. I mean we still talk and laugh and get along great. Its so weird to still be able to connect with him like this, despite the fact that we are getting D. There is a small part of me that still feels like this won't happen, but I don't want to think that too much.
Anyway, thanks again for your feedback and for taking the time to respond. I haven't been on the boards in a long time b/c I felt like I had no place giving advice, since my life is such a disaster. I want to check up on Tim and see what happened with him. And you as well...hope you had a nice trip to Ireland. Take care.
Glad to see you pop in; I still check on you. It sounds like things are pretty much the same; what is going on with the house right now? Do you have a weekend visit Sunday? Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Hey hope- Thanks for checking on me. Things are pretty much the same. Met with my attorney this week. I am going to see if my H is agreeable to amending his D complaint to an 18 month separation/no-fault D. We'll see what happens. We had 2 offers on our home...but, they were both low. We had another open house that didn't seem to yield anything. My H says its the last one he wants to have. My H has, over the past 3 weeks, been making more plans to see me. Its so strange. I don't know what to make of it. I am continuing to look for a place to live. I am now thinking of buying a condo...we'll see. I am supposed to get together with Flutterbyme tomorrow night. I will check in again soon. Hope all is well.
Imdi, Just wondering how you're doing. I understand that posting can sometimes remind you that your sitch is not moving forward or backwards. Hello Limbo!
I haven't posted in a while myself though I do check in on everyone from time to time. I was just rereading what GH wrote and I think it is so true.
Quote: When you finally decide YOU'VE had enough, he will come running back . . . The bad/sad part is that you have to get there on your own, either because you just have had enough, or you decide to totally drop the rope. I don't think any amount of posting/reading can get you to that point.
I've had some very dark days recently but it has gotten me to the point where I have been able to realize that I cannot stay in limbo. I don't want to let go of my H but I don't have a choice. If he is going to come back he's going to do it on his own and I have finally started to move on. It's too soon to tell what the long-term results will be but it certainly has his attention. I don't want to hijack so I'll post more on my thread.
Anyway, I just was wondering if you were OK and wanted to pass along some of the strength I've been able to find recently.
