I was just wondering if there were any LD/ND husbands on the board. I would really like to hear that side of the story. Being a HDW, it's hard to understand what is going on... My H says he has no/little desire. What are some things that you have done/are doing to regain desire?
This seems to be a pretty touchy subject with my H. He is not comfortable talking to me about it, let alone a MC. It would be nice to get a general perspective.
Thanks, Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
..."was it something I said?" Nicky says as she listens to the sounds of crickets...
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
LD men are rare participants on this board. We did have a couple quite some time ago...but they are both pretty much gone now. They may lurk, but they don't participate....Lord do I wish they did participate!
Awe, thanks GEL...I appreciate the response. I kind of figured that they may be a rare breed around here.
If there are any lurkers around...I am sure all of us HDW's would love to hear from you!
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Our of curiosity, are there any agreed up definitions for HD and LD, or is it assumed to be obvious? My W seems to feel that my desire for 2 or 3 times a week is HD and that I might have a problem. Based on my experiences, I don’t agree that a few times a week is HD. Though, I thought I would ask for opinions any way.
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
HD and LD are relative in your own relationship, and it doesn't matter how much or how little someone else is getting. If you aren't gettin enough, or your tired of getting chased around the bedroom then there is a libido imbalance in your R, which you and your W have to deal with in some way. We're all here because the bunch of us are unbalanced too. Brian, talk to her, let her know the pain you are feeling. Until she knows how much pain you are in, things won't change. The other thing is, don't expect to change her, instead you need to find the things in you that might be making you less desirable to her and change yourself and make yourself grow. If you are lucky, she'll grow to keep up with you.
I personally think that HD/LD consists of more than just frequency, but the actual ability to express desire for someone. My H will gladly ML once a week (now anyway). If he could show desire for me through out the week and build up the anticipation of our ML I might be content with that. However, we have a pretty platonic relationship up until the point we do ML. It almost makes the once a week seem meaningless. KWIM?
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
..."was it something I said?" Nicky says as she listens to the sounds of crickets... 