This is my official announcement that I’m doing a Lil and dropping out of our happy little group. I have learned a lot here and have made a lot of progress with myself. I hope nobody is offended by being left out of the list, but I want to give extra special thanks to the Mr. and Mrs. NOP, HP, GEL, Corri, and HD. That’s not to say that that I don’t appreciate the feedback I’ve gotten from all of you; I can’t think of a single one of you who hasn’t offered up something that I could apply to myself or my M. These are just the ones from whom I’ve learned the most.
Unfortunately, one of the things I’ve learned is that SSM is the least of my problems. After yesterday’s session with the C, I’m just beginning to see the scope of the NPD problem. I know that even apart from the NPD, sex is still a big problem for us, a problem that existed even before there was an “us”, but it’s not the biggest problem. The NPD is the big one. That’s the one I need to be working on right now. Many of you have given me some really excellent advice on dealing with it. I appreciate that. But I can only spread myself so thin and I feel that right now, my time is better spent on a couple of NPD forums. I’m committed to staying with W, but I can see now that I need to protect myself and I need to protect my girls. Those have to take precedence over everything else.
I love you and I’ll miss you. I’ll probably even check in every once in a while, if for no other reason, because I’ve really come to care for you, my cyber-friends. Who knows, if there’s any improvement on the NPD front, I might even be back here to try tackling the sex issue again. I wish all of you the very best and hope that I don’t see a single familiar name when I check back in.
We will miss you a great deal around here, but I for one (while I'll miss your presence around here a great deal) can certainly see why you would feel you need to concentrate on the NPD issue. I agree, it needs to be tackled before you can even begin to truly address other issues in your M.
Hang in there, take care of your girls....but remember to take care of Zbube too!
I am so glad to see you have found a support website that will aid you in whats ahead of you and understanding it better! I wish you and your children all the best at making it through this. Not sure what happened with the C but obviously it was something that you needed to happen to get you on course to your own and your childrens well being. Hope you find time to check in now and again to let us know how things are going.
Oh Z, I sure am sorry to see you go. You have been one of my favorite posters due to the fact that I married your long lost twin many years ago. It's like having H around during the day when I read your posts!
I wish you the best. I would like to check in on you from time to time, so either come back and say howdy, or let us know your new bb home at the NPD site. I hope that you are able to carve out an enjoyable life for yourself--you are SO deserving.
Just kidding. I know we never really got a chance to interact much, but I have been impressed with your intellect in the few discussions we have had. Be well, good luck with this difficult issue you are tackling, and God bless you and your family.
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"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
ZB, i am sorry to see you go but understand. Many times I feel the same way, want to stay and post but feel like I need to do other things to save myself. From one who was over run with pets to another that likes pets but was also over populated with the same, take care.
Z-Bube... It takes guts to stay in a difficult situation...your life is rich in purpose...I hope you find happiness as well. I will miss you here ( and who will correct my grammar)??
The very best to you and yours. It is a difficult road for sure. You have made it this far and now you are armed with some important knowledge and some help. You will do fine! Healing and success for your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
