Glad you started a new thread! How are you feeling? How is little baby-on-board? I just wanted to say hi and thanks for posting on my thread today. Hugs, Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Well, I think we're gonna live and disappoint everybody! Seriously, doing great. I think I've gained a million pounds since my last visit to my midwife. Oh well. My New Year's resolution was to lose 20 pounds by June 1. I think I'll still be on target to do that!
I just wanted to say hi and thanks for posting on my thread today.
You are always welcome, sweetheart. Keep your chin up, okay?
bigAl
Be a hater, not a lover, wouldya?
Hey, I'm working on a timeline of my sitch -- I've never done one of those before, and I think it'll be kinda exciting -- and I also have a little "P&DB Breaking News Update" to post (signed my court order today; make me puke), so I won't be "hiding" for long.
Okay, here's my attempt at a timeline (but mine's really long and leaves things out). I'm doing this mostly for myself, but it'll likely be a little interesting to others, too. My life is like a freakin' soap opera!
H: 32 (will be 33 in April) Me: 28 with D8 & D9 from previous M Met: Summer 2002 Moved in together: October 2002 Married: Feb. 2004 Talked about having kids, but neither of us really thought we wanted to. I kinda changed my mind later. He was still against it but told me one day that he wanted to have a fertility test to see if he had the ability. Found out he had a low-normal sperm count. He started acting more affectionately around babies in general and then started flip-flopping about having one himself. However, he still ultimately said he didn’t want one. I had not been on BC since 2003, and in the summer of 2005, H started being “not so careful” in the babymaking department. June 2005: H and I had our first lengthy and pretty serious argument; lasted about 3 weeks off and on. Things reignited and were actually better than ever, IMO at least. Continued talking about taking our chances with getting preggo; H and I finally agreed in late July that we’d throw caution to the wind … but only in months that I wouldn’t have to carry through the summer. Two weeks later, I was preggo. Aug. 31: Pregnancy confirmed; I was only ľ of a week to 2 weeks along. H is overwhelmed; freaked out but promised he would never leave me like XH did. Sept. 2-5: Visit H’s parents, and he tells his family. Starting to be excited. Sept. 12: Second pregnancy test confirmed. Sept. 13: (I would later find) H has 40-minute conversation with interior designer he’s working with. She would later become OW. Sept. 16: BOMB; H says he hates me and doesn’t think the baby’s his. Nov. 21: I’m served papers to try to force the girls and me out of the house. Nov. 22: H starts coming back around, but still acts distant. At least he’s not saying “I hate you” anymore. Things get “flirty.” Dec. 6 or 8 (I forget which): H and I ML; he says he thinks we can work things out; talks about coming back home in time and “learning to love (me) again.” Dec. 10: We go on a date. He tells me he took OW out “a few times” but “nothing ever happened.” He said, “She was really cool. I was just looking to have a good time, but things got too serious. She kept saying she didn’t want to be my rebound.” He asked if I was disappointed in him. I said no. We ML. Dec. 13: We go to baby's ultrasound together; found out we’re having a boy. H is excited and talks about finding us a new house. Dec. 14: I go to the house he’s living in to take a gift I made him, and catch him and OW in bed together. Later, I check his cell phone records to find that he and OW have been obsessed with one another, beginning with that 40-minute conversation in Sept. Dec. 17: H calls me a manipulative b*tch for walking in on him and OW and checking his phone records. I try to ask H to give things a week to settle down before either of us throw our M out the window on emotions. He says no, that he gave me another chance and I blew it, that he “really, really” likes OW and he’s back with her. And as for the baby he had begun to be so excited about, he says, “F*ck that kid.” Jan. 2006: H resumes legalities. I join in, wholeheartedly.
Okay, and here's today's update: L called and said for me to come in and sign the papers that we'll be delivering to H's L. I read through the papers in the my L's office, and ... well ... holy freakin' cow. H appears to be screwed. L brings out the big guns: The abandonment, the "extramarital adulterous affair," the fact that H has said he hates me and hates our child, etc. I've never seen anything like it. He also says we'd like mediation first, but if that doesn't work, he wants a freakin *jury trial*! WTF? I've never heard of such a thing in a D proceeding. Ugh. It certainly doesn't sound like fun.
I totally trust my L and that he's doing what's in my best interest. Fact is, my L adores my H, but he's tired of sitting idly by while my H treats me like sh*t and serves me with complaint after complaint, and then refuses to budge when we offer a reasonable counter-proposal.
I guess H will get the papers (which is actually our answer to his November complaint) either tomorrow or Friday. Makes me wanna vomit, actually.
Quote: I've never seen anything like it. He also says we'd like mediation first, but if that doesn't work, he wants a freakin *jury trial*! WTF? I've never heard of such a thing in a D proceeding. Ugh. It certainly doesn't sound like fun.
Hey backatcha babe...yes, he's definitely pulling out the big guns...but at who's expense...babe do you know what you are looking at for a trial jury?
