How many people are like me right now and staying up by themselves reading this forum trying to get strength as they wonder if H or W will call to wish Happy New Year?
I might need to turn off the tv...NY just turned and all they are showing is couples kissing (which is what you do at the stroke of Mid)...Wonder what my W will be doing...doubt thinking of calling me...stay controled...I have to stay in control
I really wish I had the oportunity to log on earlier to help you through the evening.
holidays are tough and no doubt new years and the upcoming romantical one are the toughest.
but if you think about it realistically...what would you have been doing if none of this ever happened to you?
all this did happen to me a while back and ya know what? I just spent the new year with my mother, her bf, my gf and her new bf...where was my h? he dissapeared somewhere around 11:45....went to sleep. last year no one came over so h was asleep on the couch by 10 pm finally at 11pm I said to myself happy new year and went to bed.
what's the difference? this year I decided to do what I wanted and invited my mother and my friend over.
stop thinking about your WAS and start thinking about YOU! what makes you happy, who are your friends, what do YOU like to do. Start doing it and stop thinking about your WAS...unless they left you because you weren't thinking of them waisting your time thinking of them now issn't going to bring them back to you.
YOU'VE got to come first...that's not tough love that's the way love is supposed to be! life aint no fairy tale...if you're not taking care of you what do you have to offer anyone else.
Get busy living for you and your WAS just may notice...but hey you'll be too busy enjoying your life to care...well...much.
I agree with LostLove, but it is very difficult to keep the one you love out of your thoughts.
This year I went out to a party with friends, some knew about my situation and some didn't - it made for some awkward moments, but I handeled it well. Drank like a Viking. Joked and laughed. It was all good.
On the Drive home (1 hour). I sent text messages to STBXW and some other friends and wished them all a Happy New Year.
I've got my boys with me and W called to wish us all a Happy New Year. She asked if I was going to bring the kids back to her today. I think I'm going to watch some football and then maybe take the boys to amovie. If it's not too late I'll run them home, but I'm playing that by ear.
Vinces - you gotta find ways to occupy your time. Too much time alone gets us to thinking too much about things we have no control over - remember we only control ourselves (with varying degrees of success).
I agree. I find that the more my time is occupied, especially with family and friends, the less I feel badly about myself and my situation. When I'm home by myself is when it's the worst.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
