hi all i know some of the good people here good give me some good advise. xw had an affair with coworker and is still with him xw divorce me to be with om. me and the xw had a very bad divorce which i didnt want be she wanted it. my question is me and the xw wife are starting to talk again on friendly terms. she brought the kids to visit me which i now live 5hrs away she didnt want me to come to the other state where i used to live with her. i didnt see my oldest child my xw tell me she is mad at mad and the really hurt me but i didnt let it show. my other kids i took them out and they had good time but i hated to see them leave. my xw will not tell me where she is living with the kids she tells me to give it time.i didnt want to ask my kids because she tells them to dont tell me anything. but i know she has moved in with the other man which i dont want him around my girls. and in the state where my xw lives the courts dont allow that om has threaten to hurt me when i caught him and xw having there affair. what sould i do since me and the xw are on good terms again. sould i take her to court to find out where my kids are and to get this guy away from my kids. and no i dont have custody and visitation because i was not at the divorce final hearing. but i paychild support on time.also ex dosent didnt like that iam doing good for myself.ex still blames my on all that happen which iam not buying. also xmas time is here xw want me to come and see the kids but see wants me to me her at a store to see the kids. and iam not happy with that idea. me and her just started talking again alfter 2 years. but i think om is some where in the picture. but i dont want to get xw mad then i would have to start over. but i did tell her i didnt want om around my kids. which was well said. what sould i do.
How much do you get to see your kids? I think you need to get visitation rights, don't wait until they grow up and the kids ask you why you didn't.
It doesn't have to be a major fight, unless there is abuse or neglect of somekind if you are their father a judge should give you some visitation. This may upset your XW, so what, she wanted the D. Just remain calm and don't get into a word war with her. emm you have rights to your children.
well me and the xw just started talking again. she let me see them when i let her know. but she would not let me know where she lives. do u think going to court will do more harm then good.
not much? well i am not trying to force you to give any details, but if you give a detailed answer like ; once a month, twice a yr or every other week, i will try to give you some advice. to me "not much" sounds like not enough.
do you need to go to court? I can't tell if you are really serious about seeing or actually taking part in raising your children.
a court order would however allow you to see your kids whether your XW is talking to you or not.
not much? well i am not trying to force you to give any details, but if you give a detailed answer like ; once a month, twice a yr or every other week, i will try to give you some advice. to me "not much" sounds like not enough.
do you need to go to court? I can't tell if you are really serious about seeing or actually taking part in raising your children.
a court order would however allow you to see your kids whether your XW is talking to you or not.
jay
i would like to see them alest once a month.. untill i can get to move back there.
