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[sat567]

Kind of like, "the shiznit."

Hairdawg

[LustForLife]

Good one, Hairdog.
Shiznit must be the 2005 version of the 1920's "bee's knees".

[blackfoot]

The FCC prohibits saying sh!t on the airwaves.

This doesnt sit will with Mr. Snoop Doggy Dog.

The FCC has no problem with shiznit, but we all know he is saying I am the Sh!T.

Apparently being poo poo is good. Whatever. hes cool. In a pimp, drug using sort of bad boy way.....

[LustForLife]

Hi Everyone
I have had three days of non-stop Christmas "fun" and I have just about hit the wall. In-laws Friday and Saturday, my parents this afternoon. We are home now and the kids have about 500 new toys, all with about 10000 little pieces What a mess. Looks like a hurricane went through this house. H is taking a nap, wiped out.
Anyways, H did VERY well this year on the gift giving. He better after last year
So here's my loot from H: an Ipod Nano a diamond snowflake necklace and an overnight stay in the really nice inn on Seneca Lake that I told him I've really wanted to stay We are going there Tuesday night Not bad, eh? We have also been getting along very well and no family/inlaw fights Life is good right now. Although I almost went down a bad mental road this morning when we happened to go down the literal road where H's apartment was this year Gave myself a big "no", "edit", "get it out of your mind" today of all days. Stayed on happy thoughts so that was a plus.
I hope all of you are having a happy holidays. Many of you have been in my thoughts, especially those of you who are alone this holiday season, or just really struggling. I can empathize and wish you a happier 2006.

[LustForLife]

Well, this horrid rollercoaster may be coming to an end, a crashing end unfortunately.
H and I had major fight last night and he just sent me a very calm email saying he does not think this is going to work
I am in a pit of despair and yet feel some relief at the same time. There is no trust. There is no real ec. Too much water under this bridge. I am too weak to fight anymore. I deserve to be happy and so does he.
I'm stubborn,a PITA, too emotional. He is the opposite. I ache for the children. I don't want them to go through any of this chaos. But I just can't live like this. One minute we seem ok and the next, we are so distant. I'm so scared right now. Don't really know what to do or how to act. Just needed to vent a little.
Everyone here has been so supportive and helpful. Don't want to leave even if the M ends but it will be hard. I'm really out of hope right now.

[honeypot]

LFL,
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope that it is emotion talking and that things settle down soon. If not, we're here for you.

Have you considered MC or Retrovaille, as a last resort? I hate the thought of what it does to the kids also, but I know that you've spent the better part of a year trying your guts out.

Hugs,
Honey

[sat567]

{{{LFL}}}

Don't rush into anything. Take a deep breath.

I won't tell you it's all going to be fine, but I hope it gets better for you...and soon.

Hairdog

[snookchaser]

Lust,

Cyber Hugs to you. Hang in there.
Breath deep, take it slow like HairDog said.

My thoughts are with you...

Snook.

[LustForLife]

Thanks HP, HD, Snook
H and I have not really said a word to each other today other than we are now considered "roommates" until further notice, and he is sleeping in the furnished basement for now. Won't talk to me. Don't really want to talk to him either.
Need some time to process....

[blackfoot]

Hey girl

first--- you have to stop fighting. stop. stop. three days ago you were in a totally different place.
second--- your H is just as emotional as you, only he manifests it differently. If he wasnt, he wouldnt respond the way he is.
Third-- If you guys didnt love each other deeply, you wouldnt be able to hurt each other. Your EC is very real.
fourth-- If you cant live like this, then dont. Refuse to fight. refuse to be vindictive. refuse to place blame.
fifth-- I recommend you go down to the basement, and snuggle up to your H. Dont talk. Zip it.
IF he rejects you, just stay there. If it breaks your heart, then cry. If this doesnt make sense to you, try it as a 180 then.
Do not lash out. Do not run away. Pride will say- F you BF. fine hate me. Do it anyway.

so are you going to share the contents of the argument?

some clues for you about your H. Emotions vex, and tax him immensely. Calmness is a front. Its uncivilized, and inapproriate to spew emotionality all over the place, in his world. He is balancing out your end of the see saw.

You cannot change him. You can choose to not emotionally 'assault' (not meaning abuse) him, and give him time to climb out of his shell. It will be worth it.

He wants this to work, and is lost like you.


Finally --Get a DB coach. Its a lot cheaper then a D materially, emotionally.

I posted to you last night, it got lost, mostly saying hang in there.
This is not even close to hopeless.

Go get some ice cream with your kids. Watch a funny movie with them. Hope your night goes better.