Wedding ring poll???

[DJDirtBiker]

Thanks for all your replys!!
As I said I won't be taking mine off until I am forced to.
Thanks to everyone here who tells their story and offers support to others. You guys make life easier. My heart is with you all!!!!!!

D.J.

My Sitch

[Positive73]

I found out my wife took her ring off just before christmas...It reaaly hurt me.....I figured maybe due toi our relationship problem and seperation about to happen tha maybe she was not comfortable with it on.....

[Becca1975]

This is the one thing that hurts me the most. He took it off about 3 weeks into the seperation. We fought about it on Christmas Eve. He tells his family he sees us working it out so there is no reason he shouldn't be wearing it. Even if he needs his space or whatever. So I'm going to try to be sneaky, although I don't know how well it will work. I will take mine off just when he is around and I'll wear it the rest of the time. He will just think I'm not wearing it. No idea how it will work.

[Bowtech]

I just took mine off, but I have it with my coaching whisle hanging from my rearview mirror. I love coaching and I see it daily. I need her to think at the same time as well because hers is off a while ago.

[AndreaV]

My sitch is a little different - when my H told me he "wasn't happy with me" I was the one that took my rings off. He asked me why I wasn't wearing them and I just told him that he wasn't acting like we were married, so there was no point in wearing them. (I said this before I read DR!) He was still wearing his at this point. Since we are recently married, he had said to me shortly after our wedding that he never wanted to take his ring off, but if he did take it off, he wanted me to put it back on. Ha! Anyway, he's had his ring off for 2 months now - almost the whole time of our "seperation."

I had been wearing mine for a good amount of the time, but I took them off a week and a half ago. My students sure noticed, I don't know if my H did. I took them off because I have been going out and my H knows that and he has to think about the fact that I look like a single woman He always hated how much attention I got when I went out, so I know this has to cross his mind...he he he

[caverna]

I think I am different from everyone here. I never wore mine...

I don't know why. H always complained about that. I don't wear mine because of my job, but even at night I would "forget" to put it on. Why is that? I don't know.

And everytime I did wear it, I would play with it, like, putting it on and taking it off as I talked with someone, for example. Maybe unconsciously I didn't want to wear it???

[theresa475]

I took mine off because I do not feel married. He had been wearing his and now he does not wear his either. I have been wearing other rings. I am goiung to pawn mine probably.

Theresa

[Be Me]

I never had one although W did wear one until after my first EA. I purchased a pair this past summer in hopes she would take me back before our anniversary. Anyway, I wear mine (I know, no meaning unless exchanged with vows but others don't know that) to let others know that we are married still. Someone noticed it yesterday and was happy I was wearing it again. Guess she never realized I never had one before. I want the town to know that I am still married to her in spite of what is going on.

Bruce

[Becca1975]

Theresa, word of advice. Don't pawn it. Not yet anyway. We were seperated a few years ago, I filed D papers, I moved on, thought we were done. Had a difficult Christmas and I sold my engagement ring to a jewelry store in order to give the kids a Christmas. A few months later things started coming back together and H was so very hurt when he found out. I would have given anything to take back that hurt. I thought it was a useless piece of jewelry since we were through. To this day I think that is why we never really reconciled when we did get back together. Just wait and hold onto it.

[AmyC]

I had also taken my rings off when I was invloved with OM. Since coming to my senses. I am wearing them again. H of course, is not wearing his but I have it and sometimes wear it on my thumb or on a chain around my neck.