I just posted something, but I forgot to mention something. Or maybe the right term would be: I forgot to list a complaint.
Here it is: Regarding our "your turn" then "my turn" agreement, the last time we ML (his third turn in a row), I literaly f---ed his socks off. (His words)
It started off (I thought) to be FINALLY my turn. I waited past the kissing marthon (I like kissing but he seems to get stalled at this act) Then the touching my boobs step, then the rubbing my clit step (like he's trying to erase something off a chalk board), then I thought he would "go down" a little (very rare by the way) but it was supposed to be my turn. As it progressed...after the erasing my clit part, he lays back on his back and I know his body language, he wants some oral action, I delays a little, nudged a little for him to go in the other direction, hinted and almost begged....Nothing... so I go down a little, maybe he'll suggest a little 69 (I don't really like that, I prefer 61 or 16) but I was loosing hope. So I thought, OK, I'll show you mister...I proceeded to give him a toe curling BJ. Evan though he had a little trouble getting there and almost gave up. I didn't
Quote: As it progressed...after the erasing my clit part, he lays back on his back and I know his body language, he wants some oral action, I delays a little, nudged a little for him to go in the other direction, hinted and almost begged
Stop hinting and hoping. Try to keep it light perhaps. A sort of chuckle and a "Not this time, honey, me first!"
How would he respond to something like that?
Quote:
....Nothing... so I go down a little, maybe he'll suggest a little 69 (I don't really like that, I prefer 61 or 16) but I was loosing hope. So I thought, OK, I'll show you mister...I proceeded to give him a toe curling BJ. Evan though he had a little trouble getting there and almost gave up. I didn't
One of the biggest misconceptions and misunderstandings come in when spouses think "okay, I'll do X so great THEN s/he will do Y for me."
If your spouse tends toward being selfish, you doing *more* for them only creates a bigger entitlement monster.
I wanted to let someone know something good for a change. Seems like I've done nothing but "-itch" on this message board.
It's Friday night and since our last "talk", (on Tuesday), my husband has been very nice. He called me at work the day after our blow up to tell me he loved me. He said he had a plan. I told him not to tell me 'cause I was tired of being dissapointed. (He is a major "p" tease)
But he made it plain all week that I would get special attention on the weekend.
Then Friday night came, and he really did his very best. I am really happy at the effort he put forth. Evan though the end results for me were not the best (no "O") I know he loves me enough to try really hard. The problem was probably me because its been so long, I think my body has forgotten how to "get there" Plus, this is a major emotional step for us; it means so much to me that he can actually show me he cares. Between my head and my neglected body, the "O" just didn't happen. But I feel we are on a healing path. I tend to be an optimist in all area of my life no matter what. So I believe in my heart that we are going to be alright.
Thank you for the encouraging post, I just wanted to let whoever reads these message boards to read something good from me for a change.
By the way, I thing I've figured out how to change my sign on. I'm gonna change my sign on to ssbunny or something similar.
