You still love your husband and maybe even wish it could work, but are now enjoying the company of another man.
Do you have more respect for your husband if he waits for you no matter how long it takes?
Or do you respect him more if he allows himself to be open to the possibility of starting a new relationship with another woman?
And what about (speaking purely hypothetically, of course, not that I would have ever done such a thing to my wife... ) but what if your husband cheated first and you were unsure about whether or not you wanted to be with him again?
Together for 15yrs...throughout our years he was unfaithful, even when I was pregnant. I tried on my own to keep things together especially when our daughter came into our lives. But through the years, with one person trying and the other not participating by constantly putting their work first, their social life, hobbies, business partner and his family first...you just get to a point where you die inside...and one day on a holiiday vacation down in the Florida Keys with his business partner and our families all there...I packed it up and went home...we separated upon his return. I had died inside...I couldn't keep it together anymore.
Instead of waking up and seeing our M fall apart, he got himself a ow quite quickly...then ended it once I confronted her via email...we tried again but again it was me trying and then we both realized we couldn't do it anymore...
Since then we are very good friends. He's had ow since then, several in fact at one point he was juggling 3 that all had keys to his loft apt...now he appears to be settled down and living with one of them who was smart enough to chase the other two off.
If he had given me an inkling of something to hope for, shown some kind of support, love, respect, given up the a's then I might have stuck it out...but I had 4 DIFFERENT Christian based counselors tell me, sometimes you just can't love someone who doesn't want to be loved or married. It took 4 of them to wake me up.
Here's something funny to show just what a marriage we had...I worked at our business for 3yrs before our D. I returned to work there after they sold the business...several cilents never even knew that we were married all that time...one of them had been dating him and I didn't even know it!!
) but what if your husband cheated first and you were unsure about whether or not you wanted to be with him again?
