My H is 4 years older than me but still in his late 30s and in excellent health. He acts much younger than he is and people always comment "He's *that* age?!?"
I doubt very much that age has anything to do with desire level.
My H and I are 7yrs apart. I'm not sure the age thing has anything to do with it though. My late fiancee was 15yrs older than me....and sex was definitely not a problem.
My bf is 2 years younger (55). My late H was 9 years older than me (born 1939). My bf before my husband was 28 years older (born 1920). The one with the highest drive and most consistent physical "performance" was the oldest one. It was interesting, because even though there was a huge age gap between us, we never felt it. He was full of energy and just a fun person. If we went shopping, I pooped out long before he did. And one might say, well my H had many health problems, but so did this man (who was not only old enough to be my father, he was old enough to be my husband's father). This man had had a couple of heart attacks, a mitral valve replacement, and eventually went on to have a heart transplant. He just had a very young spirit. He had been a WWII fighter pilot (and still flew gliders) and was sort of dashing and gallant. Women were nuts about him. (Died in 2002 at the age of 82.)
I think the more relevant question is not what is the chronological age gap, but what is the spiritual age gap between you? My father was an old man at 38-- his attitudes, his interests, his health-- all of it.
And then of course you have people like my BF's mom who is 87 and acts 20 (and not a good 20). I wish she could at least age to about 40. At least then you wouldn't have to be afraid of what rude tacky chatter might pop out of her mouth.
Never thought of that.LOL For example this past weekend I put in 18 hours at work with it being a very busy and tiresome weekend at work. Sunday was my day off and there I was up and cleaned the house. Then went outside and did 4 hours of yard work. I was cutting down small tree's and brush and raked. I asked my husband to come out and help and he pitched in an hour. It was like pulling teeth to get him to help. He has zero energy most of the time. He acts like he is 60 like he is 20 years older then what he is. He is content to sit and watch TV all the time. He doesn't have an outisde life or activities. Then one thing he is great about is if we go somewhere with the kiddos. He is always gung ho no matter what it is even if it is a 10 day at an amusement park. But like his parents just retired about a year ago. Most of their time to is spent in the house wtaching TV. Always has been since I knew him. They are not energetic people at all. A lot of the people in my family are always on the go and doing lots of things.
I guess I got to thinking about this because there was this girl at work dating a man 15 years younger. She said she could hardly keep up with him in the bedroom. She talked about how awesome it was. Me I was silent. Not much I could say.
True dating is way different then marriage. But they were dating for a year. She was just saying to that she had never dated a man this young before. So this kind of a man was new to her to be this energetic.LOL
But as LIL pointed out men can have very strong drives into their old age.
cally: My wife's about 6 years older than me, but the difference isn't all that noticeable.
More than just age, her general health seems to have played a part in this.
- "A"
"Everything that happens, happens. Everything that, in happening, causes something else to happen, causes something else to happen. Everything that, in happening, causes itself to happen again, happens again."
Does your husband exercise or work out? For me, when I am a couch potato, the more I rests, the more tired I feel. I think one of the best ways to boost your energy level is through a combination of weight lifting and aerobic activity. I try to keep this up, even its not as frequent as I would like. It definitely makes a difference in my work productivity and helping around the house. I think this is more important than age.
My wife and I are both 45. She is exactly two weeks older than I am, but I seriously doubt that has anything to do with it.
The funny thing is, she often complains that I act "old," and loves to fancy herself being very young, energetic. (She does look more like 36-37 than 45, while me, I look 45). But SHE'S the one who will fall asleep on the couch in front of the TV, at 10, 9, even 8:30 sometimes! Always denies it, too, and gets VERY defensive if I accuse her of falling asleep.
In fact, we used to argue about what show we were going to watch. Now, I'll just lay down with the newspaper or my laptop, and wait for about 10-15 minutes. Bingo -- she falls asleep, I steal the remote control, and OFF with the Lifetime "Disease-of-the-Week/Someone-Stole-My-Baby" movie (which, curiously, always seem to star either Lindsay Wagner or Patty Duke Astin -- or both), and ON with SportsCenter!
He doesn't have an outisde life or activities.