Just found something that might be more helpful than my previous post. Look under "The universe works in mysterious ways II" and find posting 12/02/05 at 4:08pm from "amd" re. detachment.
Detachment is something I just figured out this past week thanks to a few posts on my thread. I finally feel some peace in my life.
I agree that detachment is the real answer to this. It's the achieving of it that is difficult; Buddhists have been working on it for centuries. But I thank you for the reference to the posting on detachment; it's truly inspiring, and contains so much truth.
I also think that asking for what I need is a good idea, per StrongNSassy and hopefloats7. I have attempted this before, but I guess I need to try again. Maybe I need to say it in a different way.
Again, I thank everyone for all your supportive posts.
I know I'm supposed to be detached, but I just want to blow off a little steam here...it might make me feel better. My cheating H has not worked in a couple of years; I've been supporting him. He attempted to start a business, but it has made zero income, and since he met the ow he has lost all interest in marketing or trying to make the business work. Since she moved into her apartment, we have been lending her some of our household goods, and he has been staying out later and later with her. Lately during whatever time he has spent with me, he has been obsessing over this expensive item that he wants me to buy for him. It all seems quite bizarre.
There ... now I guess I feel better, sort of. Thanks for listening.
Quote: Lately during whatever time he has spent with me, he has been obsessing over this expensive item that he wants me to buy for him. It all seems quite bizarre.
Say what???? You've got to be kidding. Pardon me while I puke. Is your H for real?? He gets my award for the "Most Entrenched In La La Land on Dec. 12th"
Sorry. And Do Not buy whatever he's begging for. He gets coal in his stocking!
Spitfire
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
