As expected, W knows exactly what's needed, she's just far too comfy in her resentment and lack of intimacy zone. C asked me how I was doing and I said in a nice way unless things change, life is too short to live like this.
Don't know reaction internally of W, but I'm now serious about this, I could leave if it does not improve. I could not before, but I've hit my limit.
Generally it was an excellent start. C made point to say that with all M's there is a window of opportunity to salvage those that are in trouble.
Based on our session, she thinks ours is still in the window of opportunity, but based on our comments it's closing fast. She felt like there's a lot of strenght in our M, but the M has clearly been neglected, it's now time to work on this.
W was there, participating, so that's some effort. She's not sure how motivated she is, but C said as long as she's willing that's sufficient for now - she's willing, just not real motivated. Baby steps.
Do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got.
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IMPO it's really not all that uncommon that your W knows what needs to be done...but is comfy in her resentment. My LDH also admits to knowing what it is I need, and what he needs to do....but wouldn't take action until I made it quite clear, I would leave the situation and that I didn't trust he'd follow through on anything.
NOW he's making some changes. Give your W some time, remember at least you are both at the C's office now together. As you said, baby steps.
