Quote: Anyway, I'm feeling so much better about our R and M!!!! I wasn't sure for so long whether I should stay in the M or not, but you know, I'm glad I didn't give up. I am looking forward to more of the same!!! And more of the same, are the good times, not the bad! I know we can make it and we're going to give one heck of a try!!!!
I believe our M will be another "Divorce Busted!!"
Just had to post. My H asked me to stay the weekend with him which I did. We had a wonderful weekend. We laughed, he cooked dinner for me all weekend and it was as normal as it was before the A. I believe my H is going to ask me to come home very soon. With that said, I've decided that I am not going home until he and I renew our vows. In other words, get re-married. He is going to have to ask me again to get married. That is my fresh start and I think it is the new beginning. I hope I'm not being silly for wanting this but I really feel in my heart that it is what it will take for me. A new commitment, a new vision for our marriage, and renewed marriage. I love my husband and I know without a doubt he loves me and he hurts so bad for hurting me and I truly don't think infidelity is something I'll ever have to worry about again. I know that there are not guarantees in life, but I believe that he has learned a valuable lesson and he knows what is important to him and I don't think he will ever take my love him for granted ever again.
power of the praying wife & studyguide by stormie omartian power of the praying husband & studyguide by stormie omartian his need her needs by willard harley for both of you
http://marriagebuilders.com is harley's website where there are several other books of his as well as some downloadable questionaires for the 2 of you to fill out & work on together
keep up the good work on getting a better marriage
Things are still going well. My H and I go to counseling together tonight. I've been going by myself for about a month because I thought it would be more beneficial for me to work on me rather than the M. Now that the M is healing, we are going together tonight. My thought for counseling tonight is to go over issues that concern me. Such as - why does my H feel that he has to be the hero? And that is what prompted his A. A girl was is need and he had to be her hero. Anyway, I want to us to be counseled tonight on how he can avoid this in the future.
My H came over to dinner last night and asked me out for dinner tonight after to counseling. Then he asked me to stay the weekend with him again for the second weekend in a row. I'm very happy about our progress and I trust in the Lord to continue his healing power but I must say, I still have to fight myself everyday not to look back and continue to look forward, not to pick up that burden again and look for God's grace. It is a very difficult journey but I believe that God is working with me to save this M and I'm doing my very best. My best is allowing my H to see the change in me and he is responding very positively. We have actually made plans for Thanksgiving and we're having the family over to our home for dinner. Including my daughter who said that she was going to spend the night with me and help me cook! This is the daughter who said she hated my H, but I think she knows that this is what I want so she wants me happy and she to is responding positively. Things are getting much better. Thanks to everyone who continues this journey with me!
I've made a decision to really, really, work on my M. I know now what I want and that is a happy life with my H. I'm not saying that I don't have moments of despair, but I do see some good happening with our R. I want to go home, but for some reason, my H hasn't asked me to come home for sometime now. Our last MC session he was asked to give 5 reasons why he thought he had an A. They were, my dad died and I looked at mortality, excitement, adoration, sorry I can't think of the rest. He did say however, that he has never experienced a woman being the pursuer and he thought he was protected because he was married. Anyway, my MC surmized that he was in a mid-life crisis and that he was not equipped to handle her advancements. My MC also said that he was very impressed that he was so insightful with his reasonings in the fact that he thought he was protected. It really didn't help me much but at least I believe my H will see the warning signs very clearly if the occasion should rise and if someone else should make advances.
I want to stay M, I want to grow old with my H, I want my life back and frankly, it is for the taking.
Should I approach my H about moving back home or should I wait to be invited? Need advise on this, please.
keep up the good work on getting a better marriage