I had to change my username since I could no longer login for some reason...
It's been 3 years coming, but our marriage is now over. H moved out on July 4th, and I haven't heard a word from him. The last time I actually saw him was on July 1st when he packed a bag after I found 2 separate e-mail addresses he had - one for personal stuff, including the 26-year old girl he had been chasing since at least Jan., and the other for daily deliveries of porn. That one also included his welcome to Date.com where he was registered as a 25-year old divorced man. He's 40 and married. I found all of this when someone replied to an e-mail from him sent from the home computer, giving his new e-mail. I asked why he had a new e-mail, and he said that he didn't. I wasn't surprised to see the porn but was shocked that he had been trying to hook up with the 26 year old. He was taking her to lunch, telling her he thought about her, offering to help her move, buying her ski boots, etc. I don't know if this was a PA or an EA, but it's still cheating.
It was time, but I still have to take care of the legal side of things. With him not consistently contributing financially, the financial aspect of this is going to be very bad for me and the kids (not his). I've been working on the financial affidavit this weekend and am probably going to have to sell my home, which I owned before marrying him. I've lost so much equity that there's no chance of him trying to make a claim for any. I feel so stupid:(
At least I don't have to put up with his lies anymore.
Hey Cogal. Having been through one myself, (and, of course, now married to an attorney who regularly handles divorces), I can tell you that divorces suck. Keep your spirits up, try to look on the bright side, and know that the fraud will eventually get his comeuppance.
40 year old masquerading as a 25 year old?! Give me a break!
