3 times in the last 12 hours!!!!!!!! I am outgrowing the SSM!
Last night, after round two, W made a joking comment about my new diet. I said, Yeah, lets go eat some fish, I need my energy to keep up this pace, and we both laughed.
This morning she asked if this was a phase. I said that my desire for her is not a phase, nor is my intention to meet her needs. I told her that no one can read minds, and that we will need to help each other ensure that our needs are being met.
We are cautiously swimming against the current, and we are starting to make some headway.
I'm so very proud of you and all the hard work you've done. I'm so glad to see it paying off for you, you're W is going to be so thankful you weren't willing to let her go so easily.
What a wonderful story. I know that the story is far from over but you deserve BIG CONGRATS for sticking it out despite all that has gone on. You and W do have a lot of work to do but now is the time for champagne and roses. Enjoy!
I believe the most difficult task ahead is the rebuilding of trust. I honestly believe that the SSM issue has been fixed, but I will not rest on my laurels. I will make every effort possible to fill my role as husband. My efforts thus far include daily initiation, (she turned me down once, due to fatigue), more small signs of my love, and more acts of service.
I believe that the cracks in this ship have been caulked, so the task at hand is to start bailing. I hope that I don't find any bombs mixed in with the sludge as we clean up the mess at hand.
W has been talking a lot about our future, something she hadn't done in months. She is returning to her normal state of kindness. She shows genuine remorse when things come up that remind her of what she has done.
I am thankful for the support I received here. I look forward to having the opportunity to help others with what I have learned.
I wasn't sure I had it in me to forgive W for what she had done, for the deliberate and painful things she did and said. I found out that forgiveness is a small but very significant gesture, and that the world needs a lot more to go around. I could have run out and had an affair in retalliation, but instead, I found this place and you wonderful people, and I learned to suck it up and grow.
I honestly don't care what my friends think about me taking her back in spite of her actions. In fact, if they give me grief, I will go find new friends. My real friends want us to stay together anyway. My pseudo-friends can jump off a bidge (OM included). "From only its claw we may judge of the lion"
This is the most crucial and taxing time of this whole ordeal. It is now that the bones of our broken marriage must be reset. It is that structure that will allow us to truly restore our love. As happy as I am that we have made it to this point, I am being cautious, lest this prove to be a false recovery.
csw-- What GREAT news to find here!!!!! Man, I knew that if anyone could do it...you could! I've been away from the boards for a while but I would try to check every couple o' weeks...to see how things were going for you.
Dude, you're an amazing testament to standing with resolve...and kindness. I honestly have a lump in my throat after reading your updates. Who woulda thunk three months ago that it could lead to this (okay...maybe you and NOPkins). I don't know if it gives me hope that my M can survive...or just hope that life can get better! I hope it's both!!
Man, stay the course! While we know it can't all be easy...I have faith that you and your W will weather it well.
csw--you've been such a friend to me in this...and truly an inspiration to all of us!! May God continue to bless you and your W.
Congrats.