Hello all...been a while, I know. I have a chance to catch up some this morning.
Things at the homefront are going ok....some days really, fine, some not so fine....but nothing like a year and a half ago.
My S continues to slip into himself from time to time....reflecting, distant, and voices very little...other than he's not taking time for himself to enjoy each day....he's worrying about his future. He could retire early, a year from now....and get out of the rat race. In my mind that would be a good thing....his work seems to get the best of him....and he leaves very little for us at home.
His efforts are still there....tho inside, I can read he is struggling. I re-read a few chapters of DR yesterday....the MLC stuff and Depression chapter....he shows some of those behaviors from time to time. I reminded myself to let him be....continue to work on ME...which I am....I am still moving in a forward direction in my spiritual journey, my part-time job, and with my friendships. I continue to put him first prioity....that was one of my downfalls a few years back...when our R eroded big time.
I believe he could use some guidance from a C or paster...but with occaisional nudges....far and few between....he seems to think he can figure stuff out on his own. Oh well....just rambling again.
Will catch up with some of you....that I recognize!!!
Still so thankful for this website and all the compassionate people on the board!
Hi Mooka, It is so encouraging to read a success story! I just posted about having a hard time with patience. My H has been in MLC for about 5 yrs. However we just seperated in Jan. and I found out about the OW in April.He has been seeing her for 2 years and I never knew. I guess I've been thinking that he would have made a choice by now, but he still says he doesn't know what he wants. I guess the time frame in my mind is much shorter than reality. Thanks so much for letting us all know how things can work out. I see that it's an ongoing process even after they move back, but I for one am up for it! Thanks so much!
Dziner
"Act as if it were impossible to fail."
(Chinese fortune cookie)
thanks for your words of encouragement, we need them here! heaven knows how many times I've despaired about being married to a man that doesn't seem to love me. Getting used to the fact that this is a looooong road.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Slowly
