Well my hubby surprised the heck out of me last night!
We had both had a very busy day yesterday and last night was just as busy. My folks are going to be coming to stay with us for a week or so and are bringing my grandmother with them...which means I was busy catching up on household chores and watching our son last night, while my H was busy making sure the yard was mowed etc....so we wouldn't be madly rushing around tonight, they arrive tomorrow.
I saw my H briefly for about 15 minutes after I arrived home before he went outside to get to work....he didn't come in until 9:30pm...we normally head to bed at 10pm, since we both have to be at work at the crack of dawn! So I had pretty much written off the evening for us...and hadn't said a word about it.
I know how he is...if he's got a list of things he needs to take care of...it's better to let him go for that night, and try again (if I want to spend time with him) the next night...no big deal for me, I understand this about him.
What surprised me is...when my H came in at 9:30, he went straight to our bathroom....and started filling the tub. No surprise there right? It's not uncommon to take a soak after you've worked hard. I had some laundry I had folded and needed to put away...so when I went into our bedroom....the candles were lit, the bathroom smelled like bath oils and there were two glasses of wine setting next to the bathtub! Now, I know the cats don't drink wine...so I was left to assume, he intended one of them for me.
We had such a nice soak together, talked...scrubbed each other...and just relaxed. Nothing highly sexual came out of it, which was ok...I was really tired myself. It was the fact that he made an attempt to be romantic and make time for ME at a time we'd normally be getting ready for bed.
His other behaviors are beginning to change too. He's really not as reserved and stiffly straight-laced as he's been with me in the past. He's becoming more relaxed, more playful, more affectionate at home. And last night he just about brought me to tears when right before we went to sleep (we had been talking about our S), he hugged me and said "Thank you for giving me such a wonderful little boy." Geesh, it brings tears to my eyes right now thinking about it.....but happy tears
It is huge progress! That is really a nice thing for him to do. Hope you gave him lots of praise. I also like how he seems to be loosening up a bit.
Honeypot
P.S. Did either of you want it to turn sexual? I don't think I've ever taken one (with another person) that I didn't at least WANT to turn this way, though I've often been disappointed in that realm~
To be completely honest with you, although I certainly wouldn't have turned him down....I was exhausted myself and was content with just a romantic bath, conversation, and the warm fuzzy feeling.
Very, very nice. Good for you for not even letting the thought creep in that you could have been disappointed that H didn't start something. Sometimes I don't even want to ML that much but just the fact that H doesn't make a move ticks me off.
It really was nice....and it was more the feeling of "intimacy" that I needed then because I was so physically exhausted. And it's moments like that that you remember...I won't remember each and every time we ML years from now....but I'll remember him thanking me for our son and the night we played in the tub.
Awww, GEL, that was so thoughtful and sweet...I am so happy your H was able to express his love and appreciation for you...what a wonderfully connected feeling.
BTW, this am my H and I worked together to spruce up our normally ragamuffined son for his music concert ( one during school today and one tonite). My H threw him in the shower, gelled his hair...I had him put on new clothes and a necklace, and voila...there's a boy underneath! He came downstairs and looked so darn cute...I can't explain it but H and I had that warm, fuzzy thing going on.
His progress is slow...but it is progress nonetheless!!!
