So H's boxes are all packed and he told me he'd be moving them out this coming week. Have seen and spoken to him only briefly this past week - he stopped sleeping here last week after OW called my house looking for him. So he copied all his computer files off the computer this weekend and when he leaves after taking some clothes I notice he's changed the user screen - where Windows now has user icons for each user, with the option to lock yours with a password (I never had a password but he began using one after I discovered his A through his email). Now this is silly, but bear with me. His user name was his name, "WAS". Months and months ago I changed my user name to "I Love WAS" with a picture of the beach (we got married on the beach). So after the BOMB, I changed my user name to just a dot and got rid of the picture of the beach (yes - pre-discovering DBing). So yesterday I notice that after he cleaned out his files, he changed the user screen - put a picture of a flower for my icon and put my user name, "LBS" - and made his user name "I Love LBS". Not the sort of corny silly thing he ever would have done before - you know, when we were MARRIED!! - and WhyTF NOW???? How can he talk about oh I can tell how much it hurts you to be around me and oh I know my being here just gives you false hope and then go do SOMETHING LIKE THAT???? And it PISSES me off SO MUCH feeling my heart give a stupid little leap when I saw that KNOWING that I'm sitting here surrounded by his boxes. WHY would he do that? Is he TRYING to kill me??? Is he just trying to show how much better of a good "friend" he could be and remind me that he still loves me "as a friend"??? WHY would he choose to do something that I did as a silly romantic gesture as his WIFE then? My GOD - WHY do I still want someone this STUPID? Or is it MEAN? Can I ask him why he would do something like that or just keep quiet? AAAARRRRRGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
However, change your name back to "I love WAS". Don't say anything. Are you doing anything to give the impression you don't care, or don't want him? Changing your name would show that. That's what I found when DB'ing. My ex saw my DB'ing as though I didn't care or love her anymore.
I know its odd. Certainly someone that wasn't in love with you would not do that. Would her do that to help you move on? It doesn't sound right.
If he logs on again he'll notice. It's hard...the best sense is using common sense. Also, its hard but let yourself clear your head, that's when you begin to think of all possible reasons...which 99% are wrong.
Sorry not fully aware of what's going on. Just sit back and think is he going for good, or going just to make a statement?
I don't think it was meant to be evil. It is really hard to say. Simply meant to make you feel better? Clearly that isn't what happened. It's hard to understand. Asking him will just bring about a R talk. I would suggest changing both back to what they were. I wouldn't change yours to "IL WAS". See if he won't make an effort on his own to show you what he meant by his action.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
