NOPkins, Can we do a phone consultation together? I want us both to continue to C.
IHJ, Good pick up and thank you for calling me on it. Yes I am somewhat defeatist and it does come through at home to an extent. Something I need to stop if I am going to be the coach right?
Is it ok to keep asking for help here? I just don't feel like I am offering much in return...
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PS maybe I should've named the thread "At the beginning"
Indespair ( or should I say, Coach,lol)... Post here as often as you like...in the early days, I journaled here every day and it really helped me stay focused. I'll chime in if I have anything that I think may be helpful...doing this keeps me on track in my own own life, so there is selfish motivation to do so!
Indespair wrote: ------------------- NOPkins, Can we do a phone consultation together? I want us both to continue to C. -------------------
I am sure that Michele will be fine on working with both of you. Why don't you call the number and see what you need to do.
quote: ---------------- Is it ok to keep asking for help here? I just don't feel like I am offering much in return... ----------------
Of course it is. That is how most of us have survived our own ordeals. The time will come when you can give back some if you like.
IHJ is correct. The look at csw's threads is to see a man walk out of the depths of despair and into a place of strength. That is what you must learn to do.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
The only point I can add with my limited experience on the board is this. You must be prepared to be the man of her dreams and do all of the things you need to do as a husband, lover, father, no matter what you get back from her. You can no longer base what you do for her or with her on what you get back in return. As the others have said here, this will take time (months, year or years). To quote on of my favorite movies, "What are you prepared to do?"
God is love, love is blind, Ray Charles is blind......so there.
