Hi, I used to be a frequent poster here last year, but haven't updated my sitch for about 5 months. My H has FINALLY decided to read the books I have read - DR, after the affair etc...He says that he needs some help/advice cause he is still very confused. He is having a very hard time letting go of OW.
Anyhow, I remember reading on the board somewhere a few months ago that someone suggested a 'must read' book for the spouse involved in the affair. It was a downloadable internet book. Does anyone here remember the link or the name of it? Or does anyone have anything else they could suggest I get for him? He says he understands 'intellectually' that he should stay with me, but 'emotionally' he is hurting a lot. I tried to explain to him that he needs to go through a withdrawal period, and that things will get better, but I think he will understand it better coming from another source....I would appreciate it very, very much.
(I posted in another section a few days ago, but no responses, thought I'd try here since you guys are already in the 'rebuiliding stages'.)
Thanks slowly, I actually already have that book and I am planning on sharing it with H. I also have the 5 love languages and of course divorce remedy. I am sure the one I read about was one of those online ones (not in bookstores). But I guess I can start with these, I just wanted to see if there was something specifically directed to the one having the affair, instead of the LBS or the couple.
