Looking backward...but only to move forward FOUR

[sage]

Morning all,

I have some extra online time this AM because we have a couple of leaky toilets and the plumbers are here so both a and a to that.

I've been cruising around on the BB and am feeling completely overwhelmed about trying to catch up! I see so many newcomers! And familiar posters have new threads with 70 posts or more! argh! I need to quit my job so I can stay home and post .

Things here are great. We're in a good groove right now...spending time together, treating each other well and not overreacting when the other is tense or sensitive. Lots of goodwill here is the best way to put it, I suppose! It's so strange and wonderful when my mind just calms down and gets me back to positive thinking and the basics of doing what works. Why can't it always be so? (LOL!)

TGIF. I'm ready for the weekend! (Even though the week has flown!).

Sage

[midwest]

Hi Sage,
Your post made me laugh and so early in the morning.

I need to quit my job so I can stay home and post .

We'd all benefit from your wisdom, that is for sure. I've learned lots from just reading your posts. The learning to find the humor in life is new to me. You have a knack for seeing the humor in situations. Such a valuable tool.
Hope your weekend is fun!
midwest

[psluke]

Ms. Sage,

Not really anything I can say other than Thank you and you are AWESOME!

Keep up the good work.

[sage]

Hey Ms Pam, thanks for the warm words! What did I do to deserve that?

Things are still great but hectic here. The job continues to go well. I actually "took" my first meeting with outside vendors yesterday (solo!) so that felt like a big step. I'm presenting to the board of directors in 2 weeks -- eek!!!!

h is doing great -- loving the job and gearing up for school again, if you can believe it!

Sage

[psluke]

I actually "took" my first meeting with outside vendors yesterday (solo!) so that felt like a big step. I'm presenting to the board of directors in 2 weeks -- eek!!!!

Congratulations! You really are most awesome!!

[SP1]

Hi Sage - I just wanted to thank you for your recommendation on your threads...I had posted a Thank You to you on my thread in mlc:

PS - One other thing I did to combat my explosion was to listen to the Jack Kornfield - Your Buddha Nature - tapes which Sage in Piecing recommends highly on her thread. I did a couple of the meditations - Thanks, Sage

Hope your new job is going

SP

[sage]

SP -- I am SO glad you found value in the Jack Kornfield tapes! Along with DR, I truly consider them to be my "lifesavers" during "bomb time". Learning to meditate was one of the smartest and most lasting things I have done (no lie).

Sage

[JinBklyn]

Ah, meditation... as much yoga as I do, I have a hard time "meditating." I put it in quotes because it means different things to different people, and maybe I'm just not realizing what MY meditative strength is.

Anyway, thanks for stopping by my thread the other day. I'm so overwhelmed I feel I can't address people's points directly, so I can only say thank you and I'm thinking on it all!

As with your H's quiet "Sorry, Sage," when he told you he was meeting up with someone who had the same name as the A partner, disclosure from S. IS a step in the right direction. I'll have to remember it.

OK, at the risk of shading into a hijack, I'll close. Have a great weekend!

J.

P.S. I'll be up Boston way in the next month or so for a quick flyby while I take my violin to be appraised and visit a girlfriend. I'd love to meet up, if time permits!

[eyesopened]

Hi Sage,

Sounds like things are going great in your life with the new job and H. You've earned it.

Thank you for the book recommendation: All You Need is Love and Other Lies by John W. Jacobs. I agree with you about how well it complements DBing. I've read Chapter 2 several times now--
Lie: I Talk All the Time; My Spouse Just Doesn't Listen
Truth: Good Communication is Much More Than Honest Speech.
What he wrote about the downward spiral really hit home. Too bad relationship skills like this aren't taught in school. Thanks again.

[sage]

Eyes,

I'm so glad you've found value in the book! I thought it was simply written but every so often I'd hit part of it and think "Ah! I'm so glad I read that!"

Things are good. Work is interesting. I'm also keeping in touch with a bunch of folks from the old job so that is nice. I'm looking forward to feeling more settled in the new place and more confident of what my goals are.

Home is good no thanks to me! I've been in moderate stress mode and definitely a bit full of myself. Simple case in point...I came home from work on Friday exhausted and instead of telling h what I wanted to do (order pizza in and sit with a beer on the back deck) I watched him go through gyrations. Why can't I tell him what I want most days when I'm feeling drained??? arrgh.

Anyway...he's fine, we're fine, I'm fine. Thank goodness for DB'ing and goodwill and doing what works. A movie, a hike, a bit of quality time spent together, a couple of acts of service and I'm feeling on top of things again.

I swear I'm gonna start reading DR again!!! When I get my act together I'll look for folks to join me.

Sage