I moved over here now that I feel more secure we are in piecing mode. I also stopped posting for a while when I learned H was reading my post. I didn't feel I could be honest with my struggles.
Yesterday, we talked via email when I had pretty much decided to go ahead and move out. I'm workign so hard on me, trying to be patient, understanding, loving and caring. At times, I was feeling like I was doing all the work and he was just observing, but I was feeling at some point he has to want it too. I can't make this R work on my own.
H and I went on a trip for three days, spent lots of alone time just talking, flirting, laughing, having some great times with him. But the second we walk back in the door, he states he felt the weight of all of it come crashing back down on him. How do I help him with this? Has anyone on the boards experienced this before?
At times he is so angry with life. The smallest things like a DVD missing makes him yell. Last night it did and it really made me angry inside for the first time in a while.
For the first time yesterday he said that he thought we got along good while on the trip and were getting along a lot better lately. When I mentioned seperating to give him time to think he seemed to say in a round about way that he didn't want that and he would committ to whatever I needed. I just told him that I needed to see him trying to resolve some of the problems. I would be ok if he would just go to counceling for hisself. (I'm not even asking for marriage counceling yet.) I also requested we talk once a week or even email if talking was too much, just to let me know where he is in our R.
For now I continue to rebuild trust, continue to grow in my spirituality and set different growth goals for myself.
I'm curious as to how you are piecing while moving out?