Above is the link to my sitch. If it does not work it posted under Divorce Remedy, need help getting started with all of this.
Any how My H and the OW broke up last night. I really don't know what to do, she broke things off with him. Not sure if she was doing the right thing or if she wants to see if thing will blow up in my face and will be waiting to pick up the pieces if it does. I have been working on GAL and setting goals which I have had a hard time sticking to them. But I have a "fix" I think I have them written down on index cards and stuck everywhere that I need them. So if I get the feeling to lash out I will be able to look at them and realize that it will be counter productive to do so and hopfully stop. H was very upset yesturday when he got home from the OW place. He did not want to talk a whole lot I even had to get up and find out what had happened at her place. Right now I think he resents me for the whole sitch because of her wanting to brake it off so H and I can try and work things out. I am giving his space right now but it is hard because I know he is hurting really bad. I know that the next couple of days or even weeks will be rough but I have always thought what does not kill us will make us stronger. Right now I don't if he is really thinking of our R so I will keep things light and off of a R talk at least until he warms back up to me. Right now he is very cool and distant. For good reasons, at least that is what he thinks, because of the brake up.
Gosh Sad... I hope that everything works out for you. I think that you should just keep up the Gal and let him hurt for awhile. You have been hurt in the past and now its your time to be strong. I have heard that EA are awful and they are emotionally involved and when something happens they hurt. It doesnt seem fair to us but we have to let them grieve. If we keep up with our 180 and keep being happy maybe he will notice what a wonderful person we are. Good luck!
I figured I needed to move my post to a different area because my sitch changed dramaticlly this weekend. Yes the greiving needs to happen I have already been through it with our R. I am past alot of what he is about to be going through and I hope that he will not shut me out and see that I can be of a great help through this time. I have gone through the wondering why and how this could happen, to being very angery with the world, I am to the point now where I am starting to be happy again. It has taken me about a month and a half and going to a C to get me to this place. Also working on DR has helped a lot too. The poeple here are great and offer a completely different perspective on your sitch, they listen to you vent when things get tough. I think I would have driven all of my friend nuts if I would not have this BB to post to.
